(15 Feb 2021, 01:38 )Like Ra Wrote: [ -> ]I deliberately stayed away from this thread for 3 months to avoid any additional disturbance and possibly add more fuel to the a
eady too hot discussion. The last related post was made on Dec 20, so I hope everything has been cleared up, cooled down and return back to balance and harmony 😊
Before I read 72 unread posts (I've no idea what was going on here after my post on Dec 04, 2020), I wouldlike to thank @Hazel (it's never too late) for helping me understand my personal situation. The revelation happened on Dec 01, but nobody noticed it. Here it is:
(01 Dec 2020, 00:12 )Like Ra Wrote: [ -> ]When I close my eyes, or when I do not see any part of my body, my body "disappears" along with any refeence to the sex. Since I like women and do not like men, I do not like to see any men including myself, because I do not see myself in the mirror or on the photos, or when I look at my hands, legs or my body - all I see is a man. And I do not like to look at men, I like to look at young and pretty girls. See what I mean? I feel myself absolutely sexless, genderless, or generally bodyless. Again, if I close my eyes I do not feel my body (unless something hurts ![[Image: biggrin.gif]](https://www.likera.com/forum/mybb/images/smilies/biggrin.gif)
).
That's it! That might be the reason for all that feminization fetish. To keep it simple: a combination of gynephilia and misandria with an addition of love for dicks 😁 It can be made much more complex and detailed, but currently I'm pretty much satisfied with this "diagnosis".
As I aeady mentioned in this thread, everything happens for a reason. In my particular case, @Hazel appeared to help me to solve my issues. After the problem got resolved (or at least partially resolved until I stumble upon new controversions, barriers, facts, questions, etc), @Hazel disappeared.
I have no idea if I helped @Hazel to understand his case, I did the maximum I could and also disappeared after we finished another full circle of our discussion 😁
If you do love futa, wouldn't that mean you would date a transwoman who hasn't had sex reassignment surgery?
(15 Feb 2021, 08:35 )MindsEye Wrote: [ -> ]If you do love futa, wouldn't that mean you would date a transwoman who hasn't had sex reassignment surgery?
If she looks like a pretty girl, walks like a pretty girl, sounds like a pretty girl, smells like a pretty girl, behaves like a pretty girl, erects like a horny boy, I would definitely try my best 😋
(09 Dec 2020, 08:00 )cbshackle Wrote: [ -> ]I found my style of clothing that worked for me. (Cis women go through this as well.) One mistake some trans women make is they don't dress their age or they dress out of place for the occasion. (Like wearing a petticoat dress with nylon stockings to the mall.)
Yes! That's the difference between the "kinky fetishistic" and "vanilla how it should be done properly" approaches! Something what my wife always tells me - any type of figure can be dressed up to look its best. Sexy/slutty and pretty are two different things (yet they overlap a bit).
(10 Dec 2020, 07:04 )cbshackle Wrote: [ -> ]no matter your gender identity or sexual orientation, there is someone out there for you. In any relationship you do get involved in, it's critical that you are your true self. If you change yourself to fit the mold of someone else, you will be miserable.
And yes! That's exactly what I tried to say in many posts, but you perfectly formulated it in just two sentences!
(04 Dec 2020, 19:01 )vanessa_fetish Wrote: [ -> ]Mostly these are generalizations.
Not all
EVERY classification is generalization and simplification, hence ALL classifications are wrong. Yet we have them, we use them, and we will always be using them 😉
(06 Dec 2020, 06:50 )cbshackle Wrote: [ -> ]I see myself as a woman who has a trans history. I was assigned the improper gender and sex at birth and still use trans since I had to transition medically and socially to a different gender I was assigned at birth.
I call my transition a complete success.
Just for the sake of using the proper terms. In fact, you transitioned from Intersex to Female, not from Male to Female, right?
(15 Feb 2021, 14:07 )Like Ra Wrote: [ -> ] (12 Dec 2020, 22:49 )princesitanatty Wrote: [ -> ]crossdreaming offers other options too.
What is crossdreaming?
Like crossdressing is dressing like the opposite gender, crossdreaming is dreaming that you are the opposite gender.
There is a whole website dedicated to it: crossdreamlife.com.
(04 Dec 2020, 01:21 )no smile Wrote: [ -> ]- women give births
Wrong except if you call infertility a disease. But then you stigmatise women but not infertile men?
Yes, a disease (or an intersex condition) for both men and women
(04 Dec 2020, 01:21 )no smile Wrote: [ -> ]- women bleed once a month
This is a hard one... But what about woman without ovaries? A disease? What about transmen? You deny them a position?
Yes, a disease (or an intersex condition). Transmen (gender) are not men (sex). Do not mix gender and sex.
(04 Dec 2020, 01:21 )no smile Wrote: [ -> ]Yet again about the feminity debate and yet again, my point is it's all social expectation/socialisation/gender bending/education (ballet/dance class)/...
Not quite. Check, for example, "carrying angle" (for elbows) and different hip angle (for knees).
But social expectations are also interesting and a separate "item".
(15 Feb 2021, 14:54 )Zooy Wrote: [ -> ]crossdreaming is dreaming that you are the opposite gender
Is that for dreaming only? Not doing anything physically? And even not "lucid dreaming"?