(24 Nov 2020, 21:24 )Hazel Wrote: [ -> ]1) Do you still identify yourself as a transwoman?
Ehhh, I'm not sure tbh. I still feel the same way and certainly would transition if I felt it were viable to do so. If I had to guess, I would say I probably had the brain of a MtF person, physiologically speaking. I put myself down as genderqueer on fetlife because I don't exactly fit either gender role, I think I'm somewhere in between but I could easily adapt to a more feminine gender role before I could adapt to a more masculine one.
(24 Nov 2020, 21:24 )Hazel Wrote: [ -> ]2) Do you consider yourself a lesbian?
Nahhh, never did. I'm ok with being with anyone: male, female, trans or other (though I draw the line at attack helicopter gender 😋)
(24 Nov 2020, 21:24 )Hazel Wrote: [ -> ]3) How did you feel when you had to stop HRT, transitioning and presenting as female?
Well, fortunately, those things didn't all happen at the same time. My life was a mess for a long time so when I stopped HRT, it was because of a lack of resources to actually purchase them. Basically, I was jobless and broke so it sucked but also I had much bigger problems than lack of hormones. I still lived and presented as female for years after being off hormones but it gets tiresome to do that because I end up needing to shave at least twice a day to keep facial hair from showing up through makeup. Eventually, even though my driver license has a female name and picture, I mostly just lived day to day looking like an effeminate male unless I had a date or wanted to go out, then I would get dolled up.
(24 Nov 2020, 21:24 )Hazel Wrote: [ -> ]And finally, how did having a female partner change your gender identity feelings. For example, did you sometimes be jealous of her or have to compete with her femininity?
LOL, my wife is super awesome and I love her to pieces but she's not into girly stuff so much, she's a nerdy gamer girl who wears tie-dye tshirts and video game hoodies and beanies. She likes me to help her with makeup and pick out cute clothes for her to wear for special occasions. Basically, even now, I'm the feminine one in the house. Also, Being with her didn't change any of my gender identity feelings. Sometimes I have to do masculine stuff out of necessity, like work on the house or fix a car and sometimes I'm the house maid, literally. We have a good understanding of each other's needs so she knows when I need to not be male for a while.
I want to expand on something that hasn't been asked directly but might shed some light on what it's like for me being married. Our sex life is not what most people would expect when they see a typical male / female married couple. Because of my internalized trans feelings, I have a lot of trouble being in the male role sexually. In the 7 years we've been together, we've only had standard penetrative sex one time. My wife was a virgin before we got together so for her, she finds penetration to be painful and since both of us really like toys, vibrators etc there's never been much of a drive from either of us to engage in that kind of sexual activity. We definitely do fun stuff together, though, it's just very centered around toys and bondage. We're both submissive so we end up switching for each other when the time comes. Anyway, that's just one of the outlets that keeps me from being overwhelmed with life in a male role, I don't engage in male role sex at all and my wife is perfectly fine with it.
(24 Nov 2020, 21:26 )Like Ra Wrote: [ -> ]Oh, c'mon... Men can get boobs and it has nothing to do with transitioning ![[Image: biggrin.gif]](https://www.likera.com/forum/mybb/images/smilies/biggrin.gif)
That's true in general but not true for me. My boobs are intentional and cost several hundred $$ in hormones to create when I was malnourished and skinny so they're definitely not man-boobs. They're small girl-boobs. I was even able to lactate when I was still on the hormones. Not a lot, mind you, but still, it was cool to experience.
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