(07 Jan 2024, 15:34 )shinybambi Wrote: [ -> ]You sound a little bit angry.
My feelings as well.
(07 Jan 2024, 15:54 )yourscrumptiousdreamofacookie Wrote: [ -> ]You didn't ask a normal question.
Then we have to define what "normal" questions are.
(07 Jan 2024, 15:54 )yourscrumptiousdreamofacookie Wrote: [ -> ]Your question was rhetorical.
Rhetorical questions are also very normal, no?
(07 Jan 2024, 12:30 )shinybambi Wrote: [ -> ]Doesn't this approach lead to a life of misery and constant stress?
(07 Jan 2024, 15:54 )yourscrumptiousdreamofacookie Wrote: [ -> ]And I value my relationship with my parents and there are certain goals I want to reach in life and that creates expectations for me to fulfil
Guys, please let me bring the set theory again. One of you is talking about "A", another one about "C". However, most of what you are saying is about the same "B".
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Limits are everywhere. If there were no limits, the humanity would not survive.
Limits can have various reasons and be imposed by various instances.
There are health limits, there are ethics limits, there are privacy limits, there are legal limits.
Limits can be imposed by ourself, by others, by circumstances, etc.
Now about the stress. If a person limits itself for self-imposed reasons, irrespectively of the circumstances, laws, etc, it causes no stress. If a person is limited by something outside of his/her control, then it causes stress.
For example:
- "I'm so angry at someone, so I want to hit him! But I do not want to feel that, and I will try to calm down" - no stress
- "I'm so angry at someone, so I want to hit him! But it's illegal, and he's much stronger than me, so I have to calm down" - stress.
See what I mean?