29 Apr 2023, 16:56
(29 Apr 2023, 14:48 )MasterDQ Wrote: [ -> ]Well, there's a fair bit to unpack there. No promises that this will be nice, but let's get into it.
Quote:Why haven't you released the transcripts after years of people posting about running into issues with the files so that people can make an informed listening decision? It would have helped/would help prevent a lot of issues.100% agree. @bambisleep I really think this ought to be the subject of the next update on your blog (also see my DM).
Quote:but he basically used us as in the way that the files script Bambi to be programmed/used/commanded/how she would unquestioningly obey while he would also enjoy the benefits of how Bambi is programmed to have trouble to resisting or is just unable to resist obeying to whatever commands.I can't emphasize enough how important picking your partners carefully is when it comes to sex. Any kind of sex, but especially kinky stuff. RACK & SSC are not magic phrases, and if you let someone hypnotize you, or tie you up in bondage gear, or whatever... for God's sake make sure you can trust them first. Also be aware that predators go where the prey is. If you want to hunt zebras you go to southern Africa, not Japan. Especially - ESPECIALLY - if you are a woman, then find out more about the guy before you go over to his place, where he has the only set of keys. At least us guys tend to have more muscle, which makes things safer for us if we end up dating a particularly crazy woman.
Quote:If like on your site it's meant to be real hypnosis haven't you considered that this kind of thing might come up esp with the complete lack of safeties when compared to the intensity of what's suggested and programmed in your files?Whilst I agree that proper transcripts would be a very good idea... well, two things. First, not everyone wants safeties. Some people genuinely want to be a real bimbo, or drone, or whatever, and safeties actively work against that. Heck, just take a perfectly vanilla hypnosis file, something full of mundane positive affirmations and so on. Where are the safeties there? They're missing, and with good reason.
Second, well you are also an adult. The creator of Bambi Sleep is not responsible for how anyone else uses the files, but you are responsible for how you use them.
Quote:all the issues with doms aeady misusing the files/triggers to attempt to remove a non-consenting Bambi's agency/to override boundariesThree different things going on here.
1. Scumbag doms. See above. There are lots of creeps and weirdos in the kink world, and YOU need to learn how to spot them. Because when you're tied up and the guy decides that no means yes, or pulls out a knife, or worse... well trying to tell him "but you signed a piece of paper" or "that's not RACK" or whatever your safeword is... won't work.
2. Removing agency. I seriously question the extent to which this is really possible in terms of free will and such, but that is perhaps too philosophical a topic.
3. Overriding boundaries. First, people often like their boundaries being pushed. Second, note that the Buzzfeed article describes you (?) waking from trance suddenly when something notably bad happened - that's your subconscious mind protecting you by snapping you out of trance. It's a common thing with hypnosis - you push too far and bam, the person is out of it.
Quote:What happened to us was awful but it could have been a lot worse. I haven't posted about all of the details about what James did but the fact he used the triggers in your files to assist as a tool (i don't just blame just the files I think he would have been abusive anyways/the files were a separate issue) and that contributed to us being sometimes put in life endangering situations/there were def times one of us could have died...like have you considered our story could have had a much worse headline and that there could be a story in the future with a worse headline?What is the creator supposed to do realistically? You can't vet every potential user (well, maybe he's really CIA, this is all MKULTRA stuff and so he can, but...). You have a far better safety feature than anything recordable built into your own mind - hence why you can wake up from trance despite... how many weeks of being conditioned with Bambi Sleep? That's a great testament to your mental faculties BTW. James actively tried to brainwash you for literal months and your mind just said "nope, had enough".
Quote:Do you care...The best way to avoid having anyone harmed by cars is to ban cars. But we as a society believe a few thousands maimed for life, or killed, including children, is worth it. I doubt there's anyone here that doesn't care, but that's the wrong perspective to have.
Quote:The fantasies in your files are hot af and I do enjoy the idea of them but in reality they can translate to some not so fun things.When you feel like dating again (not if, because you're clearly a tough one, and you'll get there), look for someone with a strong moral core. Forget all the consent-obsessed, XYZ-positive people, and focus on the moral. And then, then, after you've been doing some perfectly vanilla dating, met his friends, blah blah, and all that, well then you can see about doing kinky stuff. Hell, go find the most hardcore conservative Christian church in your area, and pick up a guy there. Whatever you might think about his ultra-MAGA politics or paleolithic views on women's healthcare or whatever... you'll probably be safer with him. Plus, if you tell him you want to be his slutty stay-at-home bimbo airhead wife... 99% of the time he'll be so motivated he'll secure himself three promotions just to pay for all the latex you'll be wearing from now on!
One more thing. Police and lawyers etc these days are a hell of a lot more understanding than they used to be, so find someone qualified who knows about the law and see what can be done about James. If what he did rises to the legal definition of sexual assault then you will be doing a lot of women a favor by getting him publicly named as a predator, not to mention locked up with any luck. Whilst I'll grant that he's not had a chance to defend himself, from what I've read he's the kind of guy I'd hang just on general principles. I can understand not wanting to go near all those memories again, but I have confidence you'll be fine.
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I understand @katplanchette if some of that feels a bit like kicking you when you're down & then rubbing salt in the wounds, but I guess I've always been better at being honest than being nice. Best of luck with the future, in whatever form it takes.
So wanted to mention that like you should probs read a link I'm attaching for more context on how I met James/when bs was introduced cuz you have mentioned things about how I started listening to Bambi/how informed I was about the files probs based on what little the article mentions and those are incorrect. Jessica was a actually super diligent and spent since like Nov/dec of last year interviewing us/researching stuff etc but she had to leave a lot out cuz there wasn't enough space to tell the full story of everyone involved but I think she did a good job summarizing what happened & including the most relevant info. I detailed context missing from the article about how I met him and that here just to clarify in regards to a few things you mentioned:
https://www.tumblr.com/kittyplanchett3/7...urce=share
Also I've said this so many times but I don't blame the files. I think they were a tool he used that contributed to issues but I don't blame the files alone.
-----As far as what led to things being so extreme...it was the cult like dynamic. Even in normal cults with no hypno it can get weird and people can be convinced of a lot of things. Just saw a news article about people who starved themselves to death for Jesus and like...yea you don't need hypno to make someone do something they normally wouldn't but in our case it was something that contributed to a problem that probably would have existed even without hypnosis. The combo of an abusive asshole/social reinforcement/cult like dynamic/hypnosis is rly what made his abuse so effective. During the time I was in the cult I barely spoke to anyone who wasn't listening to Bambi or in the lil cult he made so for like 2 years I was in a little very niche social bubble that reinforced everything he said constantly which made it easier to truly start to believe the crazy shit he was saying/the things the files were programming. I was also a sex worker online before/during so like...that line of work rly just worked to reinforce constant themes of sex n other stuff and I think the combo of my existing lifestyle and everything else just made it all much more intense and his abuse more effective at manipulating my own mind and beliefs.
-----I have talked to a lawyer again 2 days ago after getting free legal advice awhile back. I chatted with this new lawyer recently because I wanted to know about civil/criminal options incase someone decides they want to report so I could support them and pass on helpful info.
Before I continue on this subject to be clear rn I have NO desire or intention of filing a suit civilly or reporting him criminally and if I ever did report it would be criminally.
With that said one of the reasons I took the time to message the creator so much on safety is cuz of what the lawyer said about civil suit options. He said it may be possible to file suit against James' old company because he assaulted us at their office and it's possible that we could maybe also file a civil suit against the creator of the Bambi files for negligence as well. With that said
Again I have no desire or plans to do this. This was just info the lawyer shared with me that I'm passing on.
I'm mentioning this cuz I was unaware that someone filing a civil suit for sexual assault could do that kinda thing and file a civil suit against a workplace the assault happened etc. This seems like important info for creators in general to know so I figured I would share it. I tried my best to communicate what the lawyer that I spoke to said to me about things but I'm not a lawyer so if any lawyers are on here and think my explanation leaves out context or important info it probably does...pls lemme remind yall I still consider myself a bimbo and I'm legit dumb on these topics in particular and I'm doing my best to parrot what he said 🫠
The lawyer I spoke to actually knew a lot about hypnosis cases and told me about a couple cases I didn't know happened and it was interesting to hear about. on the subject of the files he said if the site is found to have misleading info/doesn't take enough steps to properly inform people about what they would be listening to/the contents or if the creator could be found to be negligent correcting or addressing known safety issues basically someone could probably file a suit against them for damages if the files could be seen as a major contributing factor to someone being harmed.
Again, if I ever report James it would be a criminal case not civil case so again, this is just stuff I learned that I'm sharing cuz I felt that it might be good to know, it's not stuff I plan to do. I am not reporting him criminally any time soon. im emphasizing this again because I've had to correct so many things on diff sites that people read & wrote about (idk where) and I want to make it crystal clear that this isn't something that I ever plan to do/civil suit will never be something I personally consider.
-----Also I think it's valid af if some people don't want safeties but it's also rly important for them to exist for people who do want them/rely on them. The creator could release a file/file set that reinforces things like Bambi's ability to reject suggestions etc for people who wanted those safeties as an add on/training loop. People who don't want safeties reinforced could just not listen. There are some solutions to these issues and it would have been easier if these issues were addressed earlier on but like...it's not like there aren't ways to please both the people who want safeties and the people who don't want them. There are ways to make both sets of listeners happy.
It's also important to acknowledge that for most people the lifestyle Bambi is programmed to have/attain is unattainable. Unless someone is wealthy and doesn't need to work or is taken care of by someone else I truly feel like most people wouldn't be able to function in the world as Bambi as the files scripts her or enjoy the experience and I speak from experience with this.
I got as close to a full takeover as I would say I could have gotten and it actually became more stressful/less enjoyable as time went on...the problem is (and maybe the creator didn't foresee this) once you start living as Bambi 24/7 and achieve all the basic milestones you start to run out of easy things on your Bambi lifestyle check list that the files program you to desire/want to achieve/that make you feel like a gg. what's left after that initial list of things is achieved and your mindset as Bambi is rly solidified s the anxiety of not feeling like a gg cuz the other goals are completely unattainable at the moment/ur stuck in lifestyle limbo...which of course then effects your mindset/how you feel and creates a shitty little loop. Myself and some of the other girls who lived as Bambi 24/7 & were rly close to what peeps would probs consider a takeover have experience with various aspects and intensities of this problem. I don't think it's ever going to be an issue for most causal listeners but for people looking to legit become Bambi 24/7 and who are listening to the files as an aide to irl lifestyle change are probs likely to run into the anxiety roadblock as well where you get so far in the files until you can't make any more changes to your lifestyle/appearance/mindset and you don't feel like a gg cuz you are stuck/the lack of progress feels like or mentally translates to feeling like disobedience to your programming. then what happens is the anxiety reinforcement programming in the files kicks in as a motivator/reinforcer for the ideas in the files/lifestyle changes/to create motivation to achieve these gg things and ur just left feeling like a bad girl/stuck/anxious a good chunk of the time unless ur listening to files or a trigger is being used/ur being fucked. It's actually really not fun at all and whenever people ask me about my own experience in regards to what I think about full Bambi lifestyle takeovers/if they should give in and listen to the files with the intention of fully living 24/7 as Bambi I tell them if they have looked into the files and decide to listen/are not interested in just the fantasy the files create, don't make a full takeover ur goal cuz that's when whatever pleasure u may have felt before with the files will tank and ur left with that anxiety.
When I mention safeties it's sometimes referencing stuff above. It would be cool if there were something in place to keep Bambi from spiraling into an anxious mess from perceived lack of obedience to the files as the listener progresses when reflecting on her lifestyle/appearance as things get more advanced esp when she's doing her best so that people who wanted to be Bambi 24/7 could get more enjoyment out of the experience and avoid the anxiety/progress wall that I've seen a lot of people I know irl and online hit. Safeties can make things more fun even for listeners into extremes and work as something that enhances user experience.
An example of an attempted solution to this problem is one from a file I was motivated to make because of my own miserable experience with the later files. I did a Bambi file that reinforces safeties like the ability to reject suggestions etc but one of the things that i also did is that I used confidence and affirmations to motivate Bambi instead of anxiety/feeling like a bad girl etc. I've had a bunch of people (peeps who want safeties/peeps who like the extremes) give feedback and they generally said it felt much better to be motivated in that way and after they listened to my file, people generally expressed they felt more enjoyment/were in a better headspace to enjoy the actual files. Sometimes small changes have a big effect on the user experience and I do think it's possible to add more safeties in different ways that keeps the different types of listeners happy.
Also none of what you said sounded like an attack. I appreciate you taking the time to share ur thoughts on things.