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New donation goal

The site is hosted by Linode and costs 480$ per year. In order to allow backups (+$10 monthly), the new goal is $600 yearly.

Thanks much again to those who already donated!


You can also support the site at no cost to you by using these links shopping:

Aliexpress or eBay

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Upgrading the operating system

Update @22:34: Upgraded! Please let me know if something is broken. You can use this forum thread: Site performance, Server errors, outages and tunings

The operating system on the server will be upgraded in a couple of hours. Please be aware of the downtime.

The server/site has been upgraded!

Yesterday the site was moved to a new server! Now we have 2GB of RAM (was 1GB), 8 core E5-2650L Xeon @1.8GHz 20MB cache CPU (was 4 core L5520 Xeon @ 2.27GHz 8MB cache), 48 GB or storage space (was 40GB), 4TB(!!!!) of monthly transfer (was 400GB), 10Gb/s Ethernet infrastructure (was 1Gb/s), new disks with more cache.

Not bad, huh? The most important upgrade is the RAM. One extra Gigabyte allows more possible connections and more cache (APC, pagespeed, MySQL). Not much, actually, you may not even notice the improvements (I think the latency decreased by 10-15%), but now we have more breathing space, more overload protection, more stability and almost unlimited bandwidth.

For example, as long as nobody’s ripping the whole site (I immediately block such IP addresses), the PHP content is served entirely from the APC cache (100% hit rate)!

See also Site performance, Server errors, outages and tunings

Rubberist.Net (IAHR) is for sale

AtaraxiaIn short: Ataraxia (the owner) is selling again. This includes all forum content, the “Rubberist.NET/.ORG/.INFO/CO.UK” domains and the (non-expiring) license to the vBulletin software.

I remember he already tried to sell the site about 8-10 years ago, but was convinced to postpone his decision. Apparently now Ataraxia (65) is indeed going to retire. He did not lose the interest, but all the things not directly related to fetish and bondage take way too much time, energy and money. And after many years you suddenly realise that it’s not fun anymore. Yes, I know the feelings…

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Bondage Awards 2012 and annual report

You may remember that was nominated in three categories. Here’s the result :

bondageAwards_3rdbondageAwards_honorable_mentionBest bondage How-To: 3d place
Best bondage blog: 7th place
Best free bondage web-site: no results yet

Thanks to all who voted! Without your support it could not have happened!

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The Bondage awards 2012 nomination

Updated on Oct 27, 2012 @ 03:24: The voting has begun! You can vote for this site DAILY! But you have to register first (yes, I know…).

The site is nominated in the following categories:

Thanks for voting!

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EuroPerve resurrection, DeMasK and fetish scene

Do you remember my post “Fetish industry and fetish trends“? I tried to express my feelings about the current fetish scene, which seems to be diluted, blurred, spoiled by the pop-culture and dramatically aged.

I could easily be completely wrong, because I’m not directly involved in the events, however, my words were indirectly confirmed (at least, as I understood the article) by The Fetishistas:

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Blog for mobile devices

Another attempt to make the blog more mobile devices friendly. Please let me know if you would like to add/change/improve anything.

Site news

Some of you may wonder why there are no new blog posts since … hmmm.. a months ago. A short answer is: “No time, no energy, no inspiration”.

A long answer is a bit longer ;-)

  • Last month I was overloaded with my work, then trainings and last but not least: some family obligations. All these activities left almost no time for anything else (see the short answer)
  • When I have no inspiration I switch to other boring, tedious, but absolutely necessary tasks like system administration, redesigning and restructuring. For example, the tasks below.
  • System, software and forum upgrade
  • Forum restructuring
  • Added sub-forums for shops reviews (a long awaited feature)
  • New forum features
  • New games and new version of the SuperDeepThroat game
  • Revisited the completed self-bondage sessions posted in the forum and updated the index/table of content
  • Removed some more ads
  • Revisited links and moved them under the Blog control, so they can be easier maintained and automatically checked for existence.

More ideas, comments or complaints? Please let me know!

Kids, hand-holding and other sexual activities

Have they got too much money so they do not know what else to do with them? Don’t they have problems enough?

Last week, the Senate passed SB 3310, a bill to update the state’s abstinence-based sex education curriculum to define holding hands and kissing as “gateway sexual activities.” Just one senator voted against the legislation; 28 voted in favor.

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