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Yes, bondage can be useful in the usual life. I bet no bondage practitioner will forget to cinch the rope if they bind, say, pipes, poles or logs together. Knowing knots is also handy. And rope harness can be used to … hmmm… to hold malfunctioned clothes together. Just like in the manga 😉
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Beauty… Everybody defines beauty on his or her own way (tastes differ, don’t they?) and everybody behaves differently when they see a beauty. There are 16 psychological types after all, so we have 16 types of different reactions and 16 types of different expectations.
For example, when my daughter dresses to impress, she does not expect “WOW!!!! COOOOL!!!” from her boyfriend (like what I would absolutely frankly and sincerely say with big eyes), she can tell if he likes her outfit by subtle reactions and barely noticeable mimics. But for some that would not be enough, because they expect an explosion of compliments.
And then we have a group who would stand petrified or keep a distance with fear in their eyes, because they think that they do not deserve such a treasure. I bet for some types this behaviour will be the highest prise, and for some an utter disappointment. Go figure…
See also:
What is your philia? Part II Beauty as a fetish. Omorphophilia?
Beauty. Is it a fetish or a mind-state-changer?
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Do you speak to speak other? No, not like about shopping, politics, news. But frankly and sincere? With no Internet, TV or anybody else around? Curling on sofa? About your secret wishes, hidden feelings, wrong “movements” and correct “steps”?
Who knows, probably you both were always willing the same. Or something different. But were too polite or shy to say it. Who knows, probably you’ve already wasted sooo much time on something less important or not needed at all. Just talk to each other. And listen.
Continue reading “Nana to Kaoru. Chapter 39. Do you speak to each other?”
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The discussion in Nana to Kaoru. Chapter 32. Bondage without DSM made a sudden turn. Bondage and sex. How close are they? Bondage (see? no DSM! only bondage) is quite an intimate activity.
Can bondage partners/friends be just friends? Can two heterosexual men be bondage (only!) friends? Can a men be bound by or bind women and stay away from any sexual activity, jealousy and hence adultery?
There are some example for “yes” to all questions. Professional dominatrix services usually do not mean any sex at all. And what can be more intimate than, say, proctology, dentistry or gynecology. And neither men nor women feel jealous if their partners visit such doctors.
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Do you remember any cases when you had to quickly hide the traces of your fetish/bondage activity? For example, pull on “normal” clothes on top of latex and plugs and stay like that longer than planned? Or cover a pile of dildos/gags/enema gear with a bedspread/blanket and stay afraid that someone will sit on it and discover? Or when circumstances made you stay in public in pain (overly tight karada or pantyhose? too big butt-plug?), just like in the manga?
Do we need a separate forum thread for that?
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It’s very convenient to have a reliable, trustworthy bondage partner who can tie you up, etc (see Nana to Kaoru. Chapter 20. Bondage, self-bondage, trust and responsibility). If you have experienced and interested partners with similar interests (read fetishes), the sky is the limit. You can’t achieve that in self-bondage.
But friends with similar interests can be very helpful in self-bondage too. Not only for a good advice, but also for the safety reason. Just in case if something goes wrong and you do not have a backup release method, or that method fails, or if you stuck in a new suit (see, for example, My first shiny blue metallic zentai suit – I was barely able to get out, and it was pretty much hot outside).
Continue reading “Nana to Kaoru. Chapter 36. Bondage and self-bondage friends”
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Another point. Ever felt that people around consciously or subconsciously do notice your state? They may stare at you, swear at you, move away from you, ask something, look at you with interest, try to bull you, etc? Most often it happens with women. Probably they are more open about their inner feelings or simply more vulnerable then men.
It does not depend on the clothes you are wearing (you may wear the same clothes, but get different reactions), but clothes do affect our feelings and emotions. Especially if it’s something special, erotic, kinky, unusual or inappropriate. Even invisible, like hidden bondage or toys. Nobody sees anything, but you feel them and transmit your energy, modulated with your emotions. You body-language and your “micro-behaviour” may also betray you.
On the other hand, you may attract people tuned to the same wave 😉
See also:
Nana to Kaoru. Chapter 11. We, our fetishes and our partners (and links in that post)
Men in “inappropriate” clothing and men’s fashion extended forum thread
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Travelling, shopping, staying in lines, waiting for someone or something, doing home chores… Boring, heh? Adding toys, kinky outfit (for example, as underwear outside, or full fetish attire at home), bondage elements can definitely spice these things up.
Once I went to the office completely dressed in latex (and plugged) under my normal clothes. Must confess there were not many people at that time, so nobody noticed that, but I usually dress not to impress people around, but to enjoy myself.
What is your experience?
See also:
Spice it up articles
How to spice up your daily chores forum thread
Lockable clothes
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Indeed, how are you going to celebrate the New Year? I mean what are you going to wear? Fetish clothes, bondage attributes? Or possibly tightly bound and gagged?
I remember we (me and my wife) almost missed one New Year while walking around in swimsuits, shiny pantyhose and high-heels 😉
Then (last year?) I was late because of the bloody zip in my leotard. My son promptly noticed – “Hey, you’re late because you were pulling the swimsuit up?” I answered “No”. Because it was not the pulling the suit up what caused the delay, but the zip!!! 😉
See also:
What was your New Year outfit (2008)
What are your New Year party clothes? Updated (again) (2009, 2010, 2011)
Family, friends, colleagues and fetish moments or Home together
Yeah, that outfit from 2010 was fun 😉
Continue reading “Nana to Kaoru. Chapter 33. Fetish and bondage New Year”
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I’ve already mentioned that from BDSM I’m interested in the “B” only. I do not care about dominance, submissions and can’t play roles. I find role playing too artificial and rather ridiculous.
But apparently such DSM-neglection may offend some “tops” or “masters” (as you may already know, I prefer tori and uke terms here)… The situation depicted in this chapter is very real.
Kaoru finds it disrespectful to the “top” to ask for bondage, to make the ropes tighter, to “just do it”, to “let’s go outside, what’s the problem?”.
Oh, I’m soooooo Tachi in this sense. Hey, we have time, space, ropes, tools, willing persons – let’s play! Just tie me up and stop whining! If you do not know how to do it – let’s think together and try! If you are tired of my speaking, just gag me! Tighter!!! 😀
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