Do you speak to speak other? No, not like about shopping, politics, news. But frankly and sincere? With no Internet, TV or anybody else around? Curling on sofa? About your secret wishes, hidden feelings, wrong “movements” and correct “steps”?
Who knows, probably you both were always willing the same. Or something different. But were too polite or shy to say it. Who knows, probably you’ve already wasted sooo much time on something less important or not needed at all. Just talk to each other. And listen.