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Nana to Kaoru. Chapter 13. How to keep your partner interested

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Another point. You managed to find a partner who seems to be interested in some of your fetishes. How to keep her interested? Now I’m deliberately saying “her” because women-fetishists are virtually non-existent. Yes, women do wear fetish clothes, and they may even get excited, but the roots of their excitement are different from men’s. See Paraphilias, sexual fetishes, normality, deviations and men vs women.

Most women want to be wanted, they want their men (you see? not every man!) to look at them, to be fascinated by them. This effect can be achieved by wearing fetish clothes, by playing role and bondage games. And men, if they want to keep their partners interested, should follow these rules. Tell your wives, girlfriends, lovers how beautiful they are, how gorgeous they look in latex, fur, stockings, whatever you like, how vulnerable, wanted, erotic they look while bound and gagged.

And you may be rewarded. By the way, saying nice and kind things are always nice and kind 😉

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Nana to Kaoru. Chapter 12. Fetish, bondage and natural progress

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Another point. Do you remember the first time you put on thin nylon pantyhose?In my case it was instant erection. Or a one piece swimsuit? Instant erection again. A swimsuit with pantyhose? You guessed right. Then came more. Pantyhose on arms, head, bondage, vibrators, latex, plugs, bigger plugs, enema, etc.

As kids we begin to explore our body. It hurts here, it hurts there, but if your do this, this and that, it creates very pleasurable sensation. Some stop there, but some become more curious. Our appetite grows, we need more physical and mental stimulation.

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Nana to Kaoru. Chapter 11. We, our fetishes and our partners

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Being free from the inner bondage and being open have several important side effects.

If everybody (or at least your partner, relatives, friends) knows about your “features” (it should not be “all” your fetishes, should it?), you have nothing to hide, you do not have to make up stories about found rubber slips or shiny pantyhose, you do not have to remember what you told and to whom about it, how to order new stuff “in plain brown paper” and how to get it delivered, you do not have to quickly change your clothes should someone unexpectedly return home.

It is really a great feeling. I can openly wear pantyhose and swimsuits with my kids around (see Family, friends, colleagues and fetish moments or Home together), my kids Continue reading “Nana to Kaoru. Chapter 11. We, our fetishes and our partners”

Nana to Kaoru. Chapter 10. Inner bondage and finding a partner

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Another point – having the “right” partner is crucial. It’s never an easy task, but what makes it more difficult is a couple of added ingredients: fetish and bondage.

“How do I tell her/him that I like … ?” When I was a kid I thought that I was a hopeless pervert. Hey, who can call a person normal if he likes to be tied and gagged in pantyhose and swimsuit? I could not imagine that I would ever tell that to anybody! But now quite a few people know about my “little secrets” and I suppose they do not think of me as of a danger to the society 😉

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Nana to Kaoru. Chapter 9. Breaking through the inner bondage. Wearing pantyhose in public

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… I was thinking about taking a bus to the city center, so I would not have a chance to hide my legs in pantyhose. It’s quite easy to jump in on an empty bus stop and spend the whole trip unnoticed. But then you have to get out, get to another stop, wait for the bus, get in. And all on the full view! Very self-bondage like, when there is no way back…

No, I never dared. My next big step was during our summer vacation. I put on very transparent suntan pantyhose, shorts, sneakers, a t-shirt and we (my wife and I) went for a short walk. It was twilight, the pantyhose were almost invisible, but when I noticed someone walking behind me, I pretended that I was busy with my shoe-lace. Yeah, chicken… But next evening I was more brave.

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Nana to Kaoru. Chapter 8. Breaking through the inner bondage. Wearing pantyhose in public

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You can’t get rid off the outer bondage without conflicts with the society or even with the law. You can only change it. By changing the society, geographical location, the club or your partner. Again, see Paraphilias, sexual fetishes, normality, deviations and men vs women. But you can diminish the influence of the inner one, but this is not an easy task.

Just like it’s not easy to do a back flip when you can do a simple somersault. Or relax when all your life you have been learning (actually taught) how to tense and strain. It’s a long step-for-step process.

It took me years to dare to wear pantyhose with shorts publicly. Continue reading “Nana to Kaoru. Chapter 8. Breaking through the inner bondage. Wearing pantyhose in public”

Nana to Kaoru. Chapter 7. Inner bondage vs outer bondage

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The inner bondage can be (and usually is) stricter than the outer one. A couple of examples.

A typical example is:”What will they say?” or “Nobody does this!”.

“I can’t wear it! What will my friends say?”, “I can’t pull up my jeans, everybody wear them under buttocks”, “I can’t wear these watches to the office. They are too expensive. What will others say?”

“I can’t wear these tight briefs (e.g. so called “speedos”) to the beach. Everybody wears wet buggy shorts sticking to legs and full with sand. What will other say?” Let alone wearing a one-piece swimsuit to the beach or pantyhose in public ….

The outer bondage does not prevent you from doing this. Most likely nobody notices or cares. But your inner bondage is always on guard. “I can’t go to the supermarket without make-up!”… Oh my…

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Nana to Kaoru. Chapter 6. Inner and outer bondage

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Third point – breaking out of bondage. Not literally in this case. We are born as absolutely free creatures. Kids have virtually no limits or restrictions, they are immortal. But with time the parents, the relatives and society do their work of limiting the freedom:

“Do not shout”, “stop crying”, “do not touch yourself there”, “you must/must not wear these clothes”, “boys do not do this”, “you must …”, “you must not …”, “you are not allowed to …”, “you are too young to …”, etc. Some of them are necessary to successfully co-exist and survive, some are unreasonable, some are simply ridiculous. And as a whole they create the “outer bondage”.

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In My (Perverted|Perversive) Opinion

The abbreviation “IMHO” (In My Humble Opinion) covers only a part of cases when the writer/speaker expresses his own point of view, which may not correspond to the opinion of “general public”. In the What style of costumes for Halloween? forum thread using IMHO did not “suit” the situation.

Thus a new term was born: IMPO – In My Perverted (or Perversive) Opinion.

See the difference? 😉

Vintage bondage and vintage fetish. Smell of Quelle, latex of Kunzmann and bondage of Kastley

Let’s go back in time a bit further then Vintage bondage and vintage fetish. Sean Harper. Part I. First Internet access – to the 80’s. I was a kid and there was no Internet, there were no on-line shops, and for mail delivery we had to use thick mail-order catalogues, like Sears in the US or Quelle in Europe. We never had Sears, but I vividly remember Quelle – hundreds of hair thin pages and … smell … Any printed material has its own smell (or stink ;-), so had Quelle catalogues.

Of course I liked to browse through the colourful pages, but the first chapter I usually began with was lingerie. I was fascinated with photos of girls, women, boys and men in pantyhose or swimsuits. And I still remember the moment I noticed teenagers in a catsuit- or hoodless zentai-like pyjamas. I was already hooked to pantyhose and swimsuits, but it was something new I would like to be tied up in.

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