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Nana to Kaoru. Chapter 26. Incentives and neighbours

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Indeed, neighbourhood is convenient and as I learned later this is what our neighbours thought as well. They were afraid that I would foist my “friendship” on their daughter, e.g, over the balcony 😉 Same age, same school, parallel classes. Later our classes were merged together and we appeared in the same class.

It never “clicked” between us. But once on the way home I was walking behind her and looking at her slender legs in sheer white with very thin black (dark grey?) horizontal stripes pantyhose and was thinking:”And why did we miss such a brilliant opportunity…?”

Yeah, I was always a fetishist 😉

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Nana to Kaoru. Chapter 25. Incentives, pretexts and excuses

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Two more points. Given you are a fetishist and you love (self)bondage (since you are on this site ;-), consider you need to learn or do something (e.g. to learn a new language). What would be the best incentives for you?

  • A fetish class where students are punished for making errors (e.g. get bound? plugged? spanked? undressed? inflatable plugs are inflated further? added nipple clamps with weights?)
  • A fetish class where students are rewarded for correct answers and good performance (e.g. got stimulated with vibrators, get bound, plugged, dressed up, butt-plugs got deflated, bound behind the back arms lowered)
  • A fetish class where pupils receive scores and at the end of the day the one with less (more?) points Continue reading “Nana to Kaoru. Chapter 25. Incentives, pretexts and excuses”

Nana to Kaoru. Chapter 24. Fetish clothes and embarrassing moments

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Another point. Last years I have to concentrate on what I’m wearing and where. For example, going to martial arts trainings I have to “explicitly” check if I’m not wearing pantyhose and no other underwear. I got used to wear pantyhose always and everywhere, so they become almost a part of my skin.

Have you ever experienced anything like that? Or probably even embarrassing moments?

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Nana to Kaoru. Chapter 23. More naked than bare

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Another point. Indeed some clothes make you look and feel more naked than if there were no clothes at all. Strange feeling…

… 15 years ago a daughter of my boss came to the office. I can’t say we knew each other very good or were close friends, no, but over some time we developed a funny habit to jokingly insult each other at any convenient moment. Not something what you would do with a boss’ kid, but that was me after all 😉

She was wearing a skirt (~6-8cm above her knees) and thin very sheer and slightly shimmering skin colored pantyhose. Continue reading “Nana to Kaoru. Chapter 23. More naked than bare”

Nana to Kaoru. Chapter 22. Mud-walking and bodily fluids

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Many-many years ago I’ve read somewhere that men should at least once a year crawl in mud to let go frustration and self-importance.

The Dutch have a hobby – mud-walking (wadlopen) – four hour walking from the mainland of the Netherlands to one of the Frisian Islands, when the tide is low. Another one is crawling in the mud and jumping over canals (with poles and without). In all the cases the result is tiredness, ruined clothes and destroyed model of “normality” in “usual” society (usually you avoid dirt, don’t you?) (See Paraphilias, sexual fetishes, normality, deviations and men vs women)

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Nana to Kaoru. Chapter 19. Fetish, bondage, dogmas and prejudice

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Another point. How often do you hear:

“How can you wear that? Normal men do not do that!”
“How can you do that? Normal people do not do that!”
“Bondage? It hurts! Normal people do not like that!”
“I know what BDSM is! It’s about hurting people, making them suffer and treat them as slaves!”

But if you ask “Have you ever tried that?”, most likely the answer will be “Of course not! Normal people do not do that!”. Prejudice hurts… Yes, there are cases with “the point of no return”, when you obviously should “not try this at home”:

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Nana to Kaoru. Chapter 17. B, (D), S&M and sport

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Another point. For some reason physical culture, physical education, physical training, or, simply put, gym classes are completely left out in BDSM literature. If I’m wrong, please give me a couple of examples. It would be interesting to know what they recommend. However, the importance of stamina, flexibility, strength or being fit cannot be overestimated.

Kaoru in manga “Nana and Kaoru” says: “In S&M relationships, S must be stronger, than M”. Actually, in the D&S relationships the physical strength plays a lesser role, than the strength of the spirit. I’m not sure if the translation is fully correct here. I thought that BDSM or S&M terms were borrowed from the West. Most likely, in the traditional Japanese bondage culture they use “tori” Continue reading “Nana to Kaoru. Chapter 17. B, (D), S&M and sport”

Nana to Kaoru. Chapter 16. Sissyboss

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There’s one good method to overcome the fear of public performances, speaking at a meeting or one-to-ones with your boss: just imagine them wearing only underwear. Here your imagination may vary (YIMV – a new acronym ;-): stockings, bra, pink suspenders, fishnets, shiny pantyhose with strings on top, etc. That greatly relieves the stress and brings a smile on your face (smile, it irritates everybody ;-).

The opposite is also true. Remember various real stories about upper managers visiting professional dominatrices? Where they’re forced to wear baby or feminine clothes, bound and gagged and/or flogged?

Yes, our bosses also need “the breathers”. Back to Why do we like bondage?

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Nana to Kaoru. Chapter 15. Kids and body awareness

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Another point. I’m not sure if it is correct, but I will use the term “body awareness”. There are several levels or layers of body awareness. From a toddler level:”Hey, I have a foot and I can take it in my mouth!” to a high level of advanced yoga practitioners, who can sit in a pool and suck the water inside their bowels.

This manga touches the sensual, erotic layer. Kids begin to investigate their body while still being in the womb, and naturally progress further, but as soon as they get to their genitalia come the parents with:”Do not touch THIS! IT is dirty”. Or something similar. Oh-oh… “Houston, we have a problem”.

Kids must learn how to deal with their own private parts and how to use them for pleasure (but without active help from adults!). One of the consequences of lacking this experience is shown in the manga. “The body betrays me!!!” How is this possible? Well, you ignored your own body for years, now it ignores you 😀

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Nana to Kaoru. Chapter 14. Having fun and men vs women again

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In short: who does and enjoys what? The manga shows us the ideal situation: the girl gets tied up and enjoys “the breathers”, attention and (to some extent) sexual pleasure. The boy enjoys the process of tying the girl up, the possibility to touch the girl and play with her a bit, the “general view”, the face expression and capturing the moments with a photo camera.

However, the real life (see Paraphilias, sexual fetishes, normality, deviations and men vs women) skews this ideal picture. Women like attention, not many women like bondage as it is without attracting someone else to their bound bodies. Men like fetish stuff and bondage and, like one popular bondage magazine used to say: “Men like to be tied up too”.

But did you see women who really enjoy tying men up?

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