Nana to Kaoru. Chapter 11. We, our fetishes and our partners

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Being free from the inner bondage and being open have several important side effects.

If everybody (or at least your partner, relatives, friends) knows about your “features” (it should not be “all” your fetishes, should it?), you have nothing to hide, you do not have to make up stories about found rubber slips or shiny pantyhose, you do not have to remember what you told and to whom about it, how to order new stuff “in plain brown paper” and how to get it delivered, you do not have to quickly change your clothes should someone unexpectedly return home.

It is really a great feeling. I can openly wear pantyhose and swimsuits with my kids around (see Family, friends, colleagues and fetish moments or Home together), my kids Continue reading “Nana to Kaoru. Chapter 11. We, our fetishes and our partners”

Nana to Kaoru. Chapter 10. Inner bondage and finding a partner

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Another point – having the “right” partner is crucial. It’s never an easy task, but what makes it more difficult is a couple of added ingredients: fetish and bondage.

“How do I tell her/him that I like … ?” When I was a kid I thought that I was a hopeless pervert. Hey, who can call a person normal if he likes to be tied and gagged in pantyhose and swimsuit? I could not imagine that I would ever tell that to anybody! But now quite a few people know about my “little secrets” and I suppose they do not think of me as of a danger to the society 😉

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Nana to Kaoru. Chapter 9. Breaking through the inner bondage. Wearing pantyhose in public

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… I was thinking about taking a bus to the city center, so I would not have a chance to hide my legs in pantyhose. It’s quite easy to jump in on an empty bus stop and spend the whole trip unnoticed. But then you have to get out, get to another stop, wait for the bus, get in. And all on the full view! Very self-bondage like, when there is no way back…

No, I never dared. My next big step was during our summer vacation. I put on very transparent suntan pantyhose, shorts, sneakers, a t-shirt and we (my wife and I) went for a short walk. It was twilight, the pantyhose were almost invisible, but when I noticed someone walking behind me, I pretended that I was busy with my shoe-lace. Yeah, chicken… But next evening I was more brave.

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Nana to Kaoru. Chapter 8. Breaking through the inner bondage. Wearing pantyhose in public

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You can’t get rid off the outer bondage without conflicts with the society or even with the law. You can only change it. By changing the society, geographical location, the club or your partner. Again, see Paraphilias, sexual fetishes, normality, deviations and men vs women. But you can diminish the influence of the inner one, but this is not an easy task.

Just like it’s not easy to do a back flip when you can do a simple somersault. Or relax when all your life you have been learning (actually taught) how to tense and strain. It’s a long step-for-step process.

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Nana to Kaoru. Chapter 7. Inner bondage vs outer bondage

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The inner bondage can be (and usually is) stricter than the outer one. A couple of examples.

A typical example is:”What will they say?” or “Nobody does this!”.

“I can’t wear it! What will my friends say?”, “I can’t pull up my jeans, everybody wear them under buttocks”, “I can’t wear these watches to the office. They are too expensive. What will others say?”

“I can’t wear these tight briefs (e.g. so called “speedos”) to the beach. Everybody wears wet buggy shorts sticking to legs and full with sand. What will other say?” Let alone wearing a one-piece swimsuit to the beach or pantyhose in public ….

The outer bondage does not prevent you from doing this. Most likely nobody notices or cares. But your inner bondage is always on guard. “I can’t go to the supermarket without make-up!”… Oh my…

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Nana to Kaoru. Chapter 4. Why do we like bondage?

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This mange has many very valid points. Why do we like bondage? Even if nothing happens when we are bound? If it were about pure excitement and getting relief, some good hentai and masturbation would do the trick, but no, we make it complex.

We did touch the subject many times. The most voiced reasons are: to switch the brain off, to get free, to feel secure and protected, to relax, to allow yourself something you would never do while not bound and gagged. Strange indeed. We want to be bound to get free. Bondage liberates. An oxymoron, but it is so.

And many mention that semi-meditating state (or subspace) they achieve while tightly plugged and tied up.

Any more reasons?

See also Self-bondage, fetish and children

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Nana to Kaoru. Chapter 1

Nana to Kaoru” manga is way too related to this site to not to publish it here. from the description:

Kaoru is a 17-year-old virgin who has an SM fetish. He secretly dreams about an SM relationship with his childhood friend Nana. One day Kaoru’s mom asks Nana to hide all his SM toys so he’ll study for a change. However, Nana finds the leather one-piece that Kaoru bought and tries it on, but she accidentally locks it and doesn’t have the key! The beginning of super strange relationship.

So, let the long fetish and bondage journey begin! See Chapter #1 below.

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