Here’s some real cases.
Take the Kink Spectrum test and compare the result with Patrick’s. (Funny that he’s just published his list of fetishes he does not “understand”) Then ask your partner to take the test. It sounds funny or stupid, but as I mentioned earlier the test makes, for example, me and Patrick quite incompatible. He’s way too “advanced”, and I in comparison look like an innocent 12yo girl.
But still, these things happen even within the same group of interests: Patrick broke up with Sarah.
Another story. 3xl from LustLoveLatex. Let’s see:
I have started this weblog for several reasons. But the biggest reason is my wish to share my fetish for rubber with my wife, whom I love very deeply and has been with for a quite a long time. But at this time I just don’t have the guts to let her in on my big secret. So my goal is to learn more about myself and my fetish for latex rubber so I can gain some self esteem and speak freely about the subject to my wife.
In Sep 2005 3xl wrote an excellent tutorial on how to tell your partner about your fetishes. But despite all of his efforts:
I took the red pill this week… When I asked my wife for a divorce.
I have been thinking so hard about this for so long! I want to be loved for what and who I am, feel desired and appreciated and be able live out my latex fetish on a daily basis!
My wife would never be able to fulfil my needs. She wouldn’t be the one who want to help me slide into a latex sleep sac when I’m 65. She would never put her heart into it. I finally understand that now.
There is no good way to end a relationship there lasted half a lifetime. I feel like the biggest scumbag on the planet! But at the same time I know this is right for me. I have to follow my heart.
3XL started his latex blog in 2002 out of a growing sense of frustration that his wife would never accept or understand his fetish. The blog quickly took off when it struck a chord with many latex fetishists who experienced the same situation in their own lives.
While 3XL evolved as a fetishist, his wife at the time was not able to accept his fetish or his inner cravings, in spite of the sacrifices that he made in the marriage. In the end, after a lot of soul searching, he made the painful decision to end the marriage.
Luckily for him, a latex soulmate was not far away from entering his life, when he met Latex Kitty. Kitty gave up her studies in Berlin to move in with 3XL and start a new life here in Denmark, and in October 2008, she accepted 3XL’s proposal of marriage!
You can get a helluva advices on the Internet on “How to…”. However it’s always up to you, your wishes, your desires, your list of priorities, your ability to speak to each other and understand each other. One recipe may work for one but kill another. You never know if you will want to be gagged, plugged, bound and put in a latex sack when you are 65. Will you prefer a psychological comfort and full understanding? Or active sexual life for the time being? (these two things are rarely compatible and mostly mutually exclusive).
You never know what you are going to lose or found. Unless you do know what you want, have proper intentions and follow the Warrior Path. But in this case most likely you will not care about such things as latex and pantyhose…