Another point. Ever heard this expression:”If you are being raped and you can’t stop it, just relax and try to enjoy”? OK, this is an extreme example, but the problem is, people tend to behave like they are being raped (when they are not) and do their best to resist, instead of relaxing and trying to understand what’s going on.
And they might even like it afterwards ;)
Learnt it the hard way while explaining math to my daughter :D