What gets you into a Self-bondage mood?
As I read through postings in the Forum and Ra’s most excellent Blog, I realised that some, though not all (more about that later), of what I was reading was heightening my desire for another SB session. Indeed, I was getting turned on by the thought or image some stories and articles created in my mind.
This got me thinking about what I use to get ‘into the mood’ for some serious SB fun, and then to wonder what stimulants other people might use for the same activity.
My personal favourites are not particularly surprising:
Images:
Photos or videos of bondage/self-bondage are a great turn-on for me. Ideally I want the subject to be female, clothed in nylon/latex/lycra and intricately bound in some way.
Self bondage videos are occasionally good, but most lack the ‘helplessness’ of the bondage I need (we’ve all seen ones where the girl cuffs her hands in front or ties a hopelessly loose piece of rope around her ankles – any ‘real’ SB fan knows this is just useless for a proper session!) so I tend to stick with erotic bondage (not ‘hard’ SM, I like to see my damsels enjoying themselves, not crying in pain or terror… turn-off indeed!😟).
Vanilla(?) images of attractive women wearing latex, rubber, nylon, etc can sometimes create a spark but usually because I’m thinking of them in bondage pose 😉
A final, personal, thought about images; I do find well shot photos of men in self-bondage stimulating, which initially caused me great angst! However, using the most prodigious male exponent of SB, Ra himself, as an example, I now understand that it’s the scenario that gets me going – not Ra’s helpless body (sorry Ra, I hope you’re not too disappointed!).
Literature (stories):
A well written story of someone (again, for preference female, but if the scene is good I don’t mind a male perspective) can be a great idea creator – letting me imagine myself in that predicament or improving further. Once again Ra scores highly in this area; I confess to both getting very turned on and also being inspired to greater things in my own sessions when reading his articles and (Warning! ego trip coming up!!) I hope, in some small way, my own writings work for others in a similar way (OK, ego trip over!:blush😊.
Though I enjoy fictional SB tales, I much prefer to read about genuine experiences, which I feel are better sources of inspiration (and usually much easier to achieve yourself!) – add quality images to a quality story and you have a winner (Ra, take another bow!)
Clothing, self-bondage material and ‘toys’:
This is another very personal area; so what I write might not apply to you (though I suspect it does!)
Clothing is, I hope, pretty much self explanatory. I might see a special offer on pantyhose (always a favourite with me!), a lycra body/swimsuit or something in latex. Either the purchase or thought of a purchase can be enough to get me into the mood.
Self-bondage material is another obvious area; rope, tape, padlocks, timers and the like are either brought or seen and trigger a session (more fun if you’re actually using something new – well, usually!)
Toys can be anything you use to enhance your experience further. For me it can be purchasing new plug or gag which leads me to an urgent need to try them out ‘for real’! My patience record is 2 whole days without using my new toy in a session (the shortest was 6 minutes – post arrived whilst I was getting dressed for a session and as soon I could the new plug was in place… nice!)
Do you need to be ‘turned-on’ to have a self-bondage session?
Hmmm… seems obvious that the answer must be “yes”, but is it?
Almost straight away I realised there was a simple problem that faces any serious SB practitioner – how to get in the mood, but not get too turned on!
Let me explain this; it appears logical to me that for most of us men, there is a clear need to prevent an early (premature?) orgasm – I can’t speak for female Self-bondagers (should that be self-bondagette’s?) and suspect they laugh at us poor males with our ‘one shot and it’s all over’ approach to sex (female readers may wish to add their own thoughts here). Ra’s article about his CB6000 (always think this sounds like a 2-way radio from the 70’s & 80’s!) and my own approach to de-sensitising my cock under multiple layers of nylon are good examples of what I mean.
So here is the challenge – I need (want) to be turned on before I start my session, but not so turned on that it’s over before I get going. In all honesty I often fail, succumbing (ahem!:blush😊 to my primal desires before a rope it tied, occasionally before I even get fully dressed. It always seems such a good idea at the time (well, I am only a man after all!), but 5 minutes later I wish I’d held out.
My best sessions are always those where I’m only just turned on enough to play, don’t ask me to describe this feeling – I can’t, it’s just a moment in time when dressing and binding can all take place before the lust kicks in.
And, for me, there is no finer feeling in the world of sexuality than being helplessly bound and unable to cum when you desperately wish you could!
There you have it, a view into my world of turn-ons and how/why i use them for my self-bondage fun.
Play safe
MJ
(This post was last modified: 27 Jan 2013, 14:57 by Like Ra.)
As I read through postings in the Forum and Ra’s most excellent Blog, I realised that some, though not all (more about that later), of what I was reading was heightening my desire for another SB session. Indeed, I was getting turned on by the thought or image some stories and articles created in my mind.
This got me thinking about what I use to get ‘into the mood’ for some serious SB fun, and then to wonder what stimulants other people might use for the same activity.
My personal favourites are not particularly surprising:
Images:
Photos or videos of bondage/self-bondage are a great turn-on for me. Ideally I want the subject to be female, clothed in nylon/latex/lycra and intricately bound in some way.
Self bondage videos are occasionally good, but most lack the ‘helplessness’ of the bondage I need (we’ve all seen ones where the girl cuffs her hands in front or ties a hopelessly loose piece of rope around her ankles – any ‘real’ SB fan knows this is just useless for a proper session!) so I tend to stick with erotic bondage (not ‘hard’ SM, I like to see my damsels enjoying themselves, not crying in pain or terror… turn-off indeed!😟).
Vanilla(?) images of attractive women wearing latex, rubber, nylon, etc can sometimes create a spark but usually because I’m thinking of them in bondage pose 😉
A final, personal, thought about images; I do find well shot photos of men in self-bondage stimulating, which initially caused me great angst! However, using the most prodigious male exponent of SB, Ra himself, as an example, I now understand that it’s the scenario that gets me going – not Ra’s helpless body (sorry Ra, I hope you’re not too disappointed!).
Literature (stories):
A well written story of someone (again, for preference female, but if the scene is good I don’t mind a male perspective) can be a great idea creator – letting me imagine myself in that predicament or improving further. Once again Ra scores highly in this area; I confess to both getting very turned on and also being inspired to greater things in my own sessions when reading his articles and (Warning! ego trip coming up!!) I hope, in some small way, my own writings work for others in a similar way (OK, ego trip over!:blush😊.
Though I enjoy fictional SB tales, I much prefer to read about genuine experiences, which I feel are better sources of inspiration (and usually much easier to achieve yourself!) – add quality images to a quality story and you have a winner (Ra, take another bow!)
Clothing, self-bondage material and ‘toys’:
This is another very personal area; so what I write might not apply to you (though I suspect it does!)
Clothing is, I hope, pretty much self explanatory. I might see a special offer on pantyhose (always a favourite with me!), a lycra body/swimsuit or something in latex. Either the purchase or thought of a purchase can be enough to get me into the mood.
Self-bondage material is another obvious area; rope, tape, padlocks, timers and the like are either brought or seen and trigger a session (more fun if you’re actually using something new – well, usually!)
Toys can be anything you use to enhance your experience further. For me it can be purchasing new plug or gag which leads me to an urgent need to try them out ‘for real’! My patience record is 2 whole days without using my new toy in a session (the shortest was 6 minutes – post arrived whilst I was getting dressed for a session and as soon I could the new plug was in place… nice!)
Do you need to be ‘turned-on’ to have a self-bondage session?
Hmmm… seems obvious that the answer must be “yes”, but is it?
Almost straight away I realised there was a simple problem that faces any serious SB practitioner – how to get in the mood, but not get too turned on!
Let me explain this; it appears logical to me that for most of us men, there is a clear need to prevent an early (premature?) orgasm – I can’t speak for female Self-bondagers (should that be self-bondagette’s?) and suspect they laugh at us poor males with our ‘one shot and it’s all over’ approach to sex (female readers may wish to add their own thoughts here). Ra’s article about his CB6000 (always think this sounds like a 2-way radio from the 70’s & 80’s!) and my own approach to de-sensitising my cock under multiple layers of nylon are good examples of what I mean.
So here is the challenge – I need (want) to be turned on before I start my session, but not so turned on that it’s over before I get going. In all honesty I often fail, succumbing (ahem!:blush😊 to my primal desires before a rope it tied, occasionally before I even get fully dressed. It always seems such a good idea at the time (well, I am only a man after all!), but 5 minutes later I wish I’d held out.
My best sessions are always those where I’m only just turned on enough to play, don’t ask me to describe this feeling – I can’t, it’s just a moment in time when dressing and binding can all take place before the lust kicks in.
And, for me, there is no finer feeling in the world of sexuality than being helplessly bound and unable to cum when you desperately wish you could!
There you have it, a view into my world of turn-ons and how/why i use them for my self-bondage fun.
Play safe
MJ