Following this poll ( https://www.likera.com/forum/mybb/showth...p?tid=1399) 73% of the participants live together with someone else. Do these people know about your fetishes?
(This post was last modified: 26 Feb 2017, 02:17 by Like Ra.)
They don't know as far as I know, one time my dad caught on my old computer where I was doing a backup of latex pictures, I really hide it very well but he was searching for sometime "incriminatory" so he found those pictures. He just tell me to delete those pictures and everyone start looking at porn sometimes but it wasn't right. Of course I "delete" those pictures, and just zipped them and add a password to the file name "pcstuff.rar" with size of more than 10gb. But I have my latex clothes, vibrator, rope and plain sight sadly, I don't have a big room and in my closet you can see almost everything, I hide everything with my normal clothes (they never go through my stuff) but it's difficult to be "calm" while I'm at work hoping they never see it.
My first wife knew about almost all my fetishes, and used them against me (e.g. to hook me into marriage in the first place), then to use me financially and as a meal-ticket for her and her son, and finance her subsequent life with another man.
Yes, I have a big fetish for humiliation and cuckolding. Femdom, bondage as well. So you can see how a devious woman could take advantage of a lifestyle submissive with serious kinks around submission and humiliation.
So, she knew. She didn't share my interests, except to use them for her advantage. After she got everything she could, she dumped me and divorced me - after I refused to be their live-in slave and meal-ticket.
My current, long-time wife (26-years) does not know. I've hinted and requested things that could have opened the door for her to ask or understand more, but she's just not interested. A totally 'vanilla' sex life. Boring, from my point of view. So it has to be in my mind, or with 'contacts' I make on Skype or elsewhere. Remote. Quite impersonal. Very unhappy.
(11 Oct 2018, 13:07 )bob_masters Wrote: My first wife knew about almost all my fetishes, and used them against me (e.g. to hook me into marriage in the first place), then to use me financially and as a meal-ticket for her and her son, and finance her subsequent life with another man.
Yes, I have a big fetish for humiliation and cuckolding. Femdom, bondage as well. So you can see how a devious woman could take advantage of a lifestyle submissive with serious kinks around submission and humiliation.
So, she knew. She didn't share my interests, except to use them for her advantage. After she got everything she could, she dumped me and divorced me - after I refused to be their live-in slave and meal-ticket.
My current, long-time wife (26-years) does not know. I've hinted and requested things that could have opened the door for her to ask or understand more, but she's just not interested. A totally 'vanilla' sex life. Boring, from my point of view. So it has to be in my mind, or with 'contacts' I make on Skype or elsewhere. Remote. Quite impersonal. Very unhappy.
Damm, it is almost my description except
1) The "ex" never got a ring on her finger, so apart from the comforts I could supply, there was no security for her, and once she started cheating on me.....it was the end, fortunatley only a seperation and not divorce
2) Since then I have been single, as I don't like vanilla sex at all, and have decided that I won't compromise myself. If I cannot find the right partner, then I would prefer no partner at all, rather than living a lie and frustration.
(12 Oct 2018, 23:04 )Atsta Wrote: (11 Oct 2018, 13:07 )bob_masters Wrote: My first wife knew about almost all my fetishes, and used them against me (e.g. to hook me into marriage in the first place), then to use me financially and as a meal-ticket for her and her son, and finance her subsequent life with another man.
Yes, I have a big fetish for humiliation and cuckolding. Femdom, bondage as well. So you can see how a devious woman could take advantage of a lifestyle submissive with serious kinks around submission and humiliation.
So, she knew. She didn't share my interests, except to use them for her advantage. After she got everything she could, she dumped me and divorced me - after I refused to be their live-in slave and meal-ticket.
My current, long-time wife (26-years) does not know. I've hinted and requested things that could have opened the door for her to ask or understand more, but she's just not interested. A totally 'vanilla' sex life. Boring, from my point of view. So it has to be in my mind, or with 'contacts' I make on Skype or elsewhere. Remote. Quite impersonal. Very unhappy.
Damm, it is almost my description except
1) The "ex" never got a ring on her finger, so apart from the comforts I could supply, there was no security for her, and once she started cheating on me.....it was the end, fortunatley only a seperation and not divorce
2) Since then I have been single, as I don't like vanilla sex at all, and have decided that I won't compromise myself. If I cannot find the right partner, then I would prefer no partner at all, rather than living a lie and frustration.
Good for you. Before my ex-wife my sex life was based around other men's wives (all my 'girlfriends' after adolescence were married women). This had quite a few positives, but I got tired of their lack of commitment and scheming. Can you get bored with just sex? Well, somehow I went from regular/frequent sex with other men's wives, prostitutes (for my BDSM needs), and porn, to being 'ensnared' by my first wife. A really big mistake. But I fell right into the trap. Unfortunately I didn't have family or friends to help/advise me. Anyway, a big, costly mistake. I should have stayed patient and single - I was only 22 when I got married - what a young fool!
(17 Oct 2018, 09:45 )bob_masters Wrote: Can you get bored with just sex? You can get bored with pretty much everything. But "just sex" (and porn) is located very low in the energetic system - second (sacral/svadhisthana) chakra. Sitting on this level does not "move" you anywhere, but simply drains your life energy.
Yes, vanilla sex bores the life out of me. Especially when your partner isn’t adventurous and it’s the same two positions. Just want to push them off and go to sleep. Bores me to tears!
Sex is boring in general, and plain orgasms are depressive.
I've been pretty open with my parents and brother about loving latex. It bothers them so i dont talk about it but i have no problem talking about it to anyone. Except its still kimda taboo and sexual to talk about in publoc.
My spouse knows about my fetishes for pantyhose and bondage. However, she doesn't feel comfortable wearing pantyhose herself, or being tied up. She's fine with me wearing pantyhose, but I wouldn't say that she finds it particularly arousing. She knows it's something I enjoy, and because of that is willing to help out. She's even less comfortable with tying me up. She's a wonderful person in all other ways, and I'm grateful for being with her.
In an ideal world I'd find someone (male or female) to tie me up tightly, while I was wearing pantyhose . . . and this other person would get as excited about playing the captor as I would in playing the captive.
I realize that this ideal scenario may not ever come to pass, but it's fun to dream.
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