Guess what, I have a real life bondage date!

[Bound Whore]

True to my signature "Life's too short to pretend you're not into some kinky shit" I placed a classified looking for rope bunnies.
Yes, I was fully aware that this is a total crapshoot and finding an enthusiastic female bondage partner without financial interests is virtually impossible, so I included the option that I would not rule out tying up guys as well.

Had a nice long chat with a dude and after some back and forth, cross-checking our interests and laying some ground rules we decided to take the plunge and meet on the 24th in a hotel close to him (he has family who is unaware of his kinks and I'd rather stay anonymous as well and not have an internet stranger know where I live - at least for the time being).

Fingers crossed he doesn't get cold feet. Also fingers crossed he's not a total creep.

For transparency's sake I disclosed that I was slightly bi-curious (my username in the classifieds hints at that) but assured him that it would not be a factor in our meeting and he was not bothered.

Do you have any advice? We established ground rules in chat - safe words, what ties and gags we intend to incorporate, that there will be no external stimulation from my side and he will be left to his own devices once tied. I had him agree in chat (and screenshotted it) that he was aware that despite me being careful and diligent, there is always a small risk of injury and that it's his decision and own responsibility should something unexpected happen. Do you think we need an actual written contract? We're not going to go hogwild on this meetup (although he will most likely be hogtied) and he confirmed he does not have any underlying conditions (asthma, back issues). In fact, he claims he's slender and rather athletic. We're both vaccinated.

Man, if this goes well, I might have a real life bondage buddy. So excited (yet preparing myself not to be disappointed if we don't gel).

On the very off chance he's in these forums and recognizes himself - don't worry, that's all I'm gonna divulge.

[Bound Whore]

Guess what, I had a real life bondage date!

Well, we met last week, I haven't posted yet because I took some pictures with his phone and he wanted to go through them and send me a couple.
Having a family who does not know about his kinks, I expected it can be difficult to sit down and browse them at his own leisure, but he told me in chat that he hopes to get to it shortly. He didn't object to me sharing pics online, but I am going to to confirm with him once again before posting here.

The meetup was fine overall. Of course we both were a bit nervous, we met at a café close to the hotel we had reserved a room for half the day.
I offered to sit down for a bit but we both felt comfortable enough to just head up to our room after a brief face to face chat.

After checking in, unpacking and setting up some photo gear (basically just a photo lamp and a tripod for his phone), we went over the scenarios we settled on, discussed our safe words/noises/gestures again and I briefed him on the other ways I would use to check on him being ok.

I placed two pairs of scissors on the floor just in case I tripped and smashed my head in. You know, always be prepared.

We wanted to start easy, so I just tied his hands behind his back, ankles and knees, planning to evolve it into a hogtie.
He brought his own ballgag harness, so that came next. First lesson learned after it was in place: don't ask someone who is gagged "either/or" questions

I gave him a couple of minutes after each following stage to settle and struggle a bit.
After a while, I tied his wrists to the knee coils first and the ankles to the wrists shortly after.

He was more of a passive captive, only struggling very lightly and mostly taking the tie in, moaning silently into his gag - which, considering we did not know how thin the room's walls were, was probably for the best.
Honestly I would have preferred him being a bit more active, since this is what I tend to enjoy most in the videos I watch, but this was more about him, so I didn't push him on it.

Added a chest harness with a light elbow tie (even though he had a fairly slim build, he unfortunately could not put his elbows together ), undid the ankle to wrist tie and fastened the ankles to the chest harness.

Since he had to go back home to his family, we could not go overboard and leave any lasting marks, so the arch wasn't very strict, but his movement was quite limited.

This whole progression took maybe an hour, after which he started to feel his hands going slightly numb, so I untied him and we took a short break.

Then we switched to a chair tie, swapped the ballgag harness with his inflatable butterfly gag and a leather deprivation hood that I brought - you know which one. This was a new experience for him, since he only owns two gags himself. He enjoyed the sensation, the mask held the gag firmly in place without pushing it in too hard (he usually uses tape to secure the butterfly gag). Swapped the gags again after 20 minutes to a sponge and tape, which I gathered from our chat was his favourite way to be gagged. Personally, I'm all for ballgags (visually and from the way they feel), but wrapping tape tightly around a head (did two vertical loops as well for good measure for a harness look) has its appeal as well.

After a while his hands started to go numb again, so I readjusted and tied them to the armrests for the final stretch.
We had agreed that no stimulation from my part would take place, but I asked beforehand in chat if he would like to try getting a magic wand tied to his crotch (he was fully clothed the whole time btw, no fetish clothing, just plain jeans/t-shirt). Asked again if he would like to try, he nodded and from his reaction he enjoyed it quite a bit. Another 20 minutes later he signaled he would like me to untie him and we ended the session after a total of 2,5 hours.

He told me later he did not enjoy the char tie as much as the hogtie (except for the magic wand), but overall it was a pleasant experience and we will stay in touch and agreed that we wanted to do this again some time.

As for me, I enjoyed the meetup as well, but I gotta admit (and I knew this going in), working with a female partner would have been way more ... interesting.
This was the first time I ever tied up a guy, and I was hoping that doing to him what I would like someone to do to me would somehow trigger a more intense reaction. It definetly was fun trying some ties you usually can't do in a self-bondage scenario and seeing someone in an inescapable tie right in front of you, but the dynamic is quite different. The lack of struggling on his part was a bit of a downer, but again, it's about him and that was totally fine with me.

I wouldn't have minded to touch/manhandle/stimulate him despite me being straight (but bi-curious as of late), but we ruled that out and I had not pushed for it at all in our chat. Maybe he'll be more comfortable/open to it should we actually meet up again. His choice, I'll ask if he would enjoy some more interactivity and if he's even the slightest bit reluctant, I'll drop the topic.

Another takeaway: tying someone up is quite easy. Making a tie look good though is hard work. Selfbondage often is visually sloppy and we don't care, because, well, it's selfbondage and sometimes you improvise. Too often there is way to much dangly rope left after you cinch something when flying solo.
But in a bondage scenario, if you want the tie to look great, you gotta do some planning and cut down on the improvisation.

Well, photos will hopefully follow.

[SLL]

Hi,

Thanks for sharing the the more mundane bits of how to organize. Sounds like you are hitting a nerve when you tie him. With some pictures incan tell you which nerves and then maybe give some anatomical advice how to avoid them so he is cannstayed tied for longer.

Tell him you would like to see him struggle more... Maybe he is into some SM and you can make him struggle.

[Like Ra]

"Struggling" is something very personal and "tightly tied" to those internal "kink buttons". For example, while in bondage, I prefer to very slowly move to test the bindings and if nothing "budges" I just lay still or shift if something gets numb.

Also, struggling can be dangerous. I had a couple of VERY close calls while trying to "struggle" a bit harder.

"Pornhub struggling" is staged. Pron has little to do with reality.

[Bound Whore]

"Pornhub struggling" is staged. Pron has little to do with reality.

Counterpoint.

Looks pretty authentic to me 😋
Even it's "for the camera", sometimes we want to be lied to, don't we?

Exhibit B: Don't we all wish we could be her, staged or not?
That moment when she arches and strains against the ropes?
GodDAMN


Sahrye straining against the ropes.mp4 (Size: 9.4 MB )