12 Aug 2021, 14:46
True to my signature "Life's too short to pretend you're not into some kinky shit" I placed a classified looking for rope bunnies.
Yes, I was fully aware that this is a total crapshoot and finding an enthusiastic female bondage partner without financial interests is virtually impossible, so I included the option that I would not rule out tying up guys as well.
Had a nice long chat with a dude and after some back and forth, cross-checking our interests and laying some ground rules we decided to take the plunge and meet on the 24th in a hotel close to him (he has family who is unaware of his kinks and I'd rather stay anonymous as well and not have an internet stranger know where I live - at least for the time being).
Fingers crossed he doesn't get cold feet. Also fingers crossed he's not a total creep.
For transparency's sake I disclosed that I was slightly bi-curious (my username in the classifieds hints at that) but assured him that it would not be a factor in our meeting and he was not bothered.
Do you have any advice? We established ground rules in chat - safe words, what ties and gags we intend to incorporate, that there will be no external stimulation from my side and he will be left to his own devices once tied. I had him agree in chat (and screenshotted it) that he was aware that despite me being careful and diligent, there is always a small risk of injury and that it's his decision and own responsibility should something unexpected happen. Do you think we need an actual written contract? We're not going to go hogwild on this meetup (although he will most likely be hogtied) and he confirmed he does not have any underlying conditions (asthma, back issues). In fact, he claims he's slender and rather athletic. We're both vaccinated.
Man, if this goes well, I might have a real life bondage buddy. So excited (yet preparing myself not to be disappointed if we don't gel).
On the very off chance he's in these forums and recognizes himself - don't worry, that's all I'm gonna divulge.
Yes, I was fully aware that this is a total crapshoot and finding an enthusiastic female bondage partner without financial interests is virtually impossible, so I included the option that I would not rule out tying up guys as well.
Had a nice long chat with a dude and after some back and forth, cross-checking our interests and laying some ground rules we decided to take the plunge and meet on the 24th in a hotel close to him (he has family who is unaware of his kinks and I'd rather stay anonymous as well and not have an internet stranger know where I live - at least for the time being).
Fingers crossed he doesn't get cold feet. Also fingers crossed he's not a total creep.
For transparency's sake I disclosed that I was slightly bi-curious (my username in the classifieds hints at that) but assured him that it would not be a factor in our meeting and he was not bothered.
Do you have any advice? We established ground rules in chat - safe words, what ties and gags we intend to incorporate, that there will be no external stimulation from my side and he will be left to his own devices once tied. I had him agree in chat (and screenshotted it) that he was aware that despite me being careful and diligent, there is always a small risk of injury and that it's his decision and own responsibility should something unexpected happen. Do you think we need an actual written contract? We're not going to go hogwild on this meetup (although he will most likely be hogtied) and he confirmed he does not have any underlying conditions (asthma, back issues). In fact, he claims he's slender and rather athletic. We're both vaccinated.
Man, if this goes well, I might have a real life bondage buddy. So excited (yet preparing myself not to be disappointed if we don't gel).
On the very off chance he's in these forums and recognizes himself - don't worry, that's all I'm gonna divulge.