Lost interest? What happen, what changed?

[Joyl27]

Anyone had this happen?

None of my usual self-bondage antics seemed to work. I could hardly even get an erection going on, let alone an orgasm, even when just a month ago I knew it would have been guaranteed. And more complicated schemes were foiled by sweating causing so much friction that I couldn't wear everything I wanted, or zippers stubbornly refused to work...
Bah. So frustrating week.

EDIT: And no, I haven't gotten fat. I have a quite healthy BMI.

[Tinker D]

Yea, the other day, I tried a little dressing and self bondage.
My results were zero. No hardon, no cumming, nothing.
I even ran out of a set of new batteries with nothing to show for it.
I'm hope that with a new outfit, I'll have better outcome.

[Like Ra]

Sounds familiar - when the old medicine/drug/stimulant/exercise stops working, we move on to something more powerful. Or switch to something different and take a break until it begins to work again.

It's all in our heads. Use your imagination. And do not forget to post about your progress here 😉

[Like Ra]

I usually begin with my image collection. Or with streams (see the top menu).

[NoNeedToBreathe]

I got a girlfriend who knows absolutely nothing about sex, hence has never even viewed / thought about any form of bondage. I've really been out of the suffocation experiments for quite some time - almost a year.

[Like Ra]

One thing is sure - the desire to play will return. Hence, keep your toys nicely stored and polished 😉

[Tinker D]

My new school uniform is taking forever to get here.
Can't wait to try it on. Maybe that will set me off.

[NoNeedToBreathe]

My gf has happily gotten more and more interested. We got to the point where she watched some of my favourites on xvideos.com (and she also noted that I had a friend request...) I showed her a real nice handjob, some shoejobs, urethral insertions, and a mother/son roleplay video. I really didn't want to drop her right into fetshes but there wasn't much out there that I'd seen and liked that would still be safe enough to show to a beginner. It was really difficult!

A few days later I remembered a somewhat tame video that was tagged as "Dom woman fucks sub guy".

http://www.xvideos.com/video80216/dom_wo...ub_guy_pt1

At it's core it's everything my gf and I have aeady done but there is a nice femdom element added (i.e. the way she mounts his face, or her thighs locking his head and rolling him left and right forcefully) that I thought would interest my gf and I was right. My gf has since shown me a leather skirt she has planned for some day.

I don't know if we'll work up to things like a vac-bed or a Violet Wand but she's very receptive so we'll see. I've also discussed some of my past with her - such as cross dressing and anal penetration and she's very open-minded about it. I make sure I do not push anything on her and I only discuss if it comes up in conversation - I'm willing to be very patient in the short term if it means a very wealthy long-term reward 😊

Still looking at options for a male strap-on so I can please her without breaking "her rules".

[Strappado]

I often lose interest for a while. I think, there are several reasons. Mostly, self-bondage is a lonely game and I often dream of scenarios involving another trustworthy person, parties that I spend tied up etc. This is never going to happen, if I don't look for partners, so probably not very soon anyway. This results in frustration eventually, because nothing I can try alone comes close to such phantasies. I think, this is not the deciding factor, rather a tendency. With new ideas, tools or toys, my interest is always quite strong. Sometimes it lasts weeks, even months. Eventually, I get used to it and it becomes boring. If this happens in the right time, I lose interest in self-bondage completely.

But here the good news: So far, it always returned eventually. Sometimes it was triggered by something I had seen, sometimes, it is a dream with no apparent trigger in real life, sometimes I simply remember something that I haven't done for ages. I tend to be very experimental in my sessions, and so there are many open ends to pick up.

I never worry about losing interest, because to me, self-bondage is not a life-style. Calling it a hobby sounds a bit odd, but perhaps not too wrong. I would start to worry, if had no interest for anything. Or rather, I would look around to get interested in something new (or old). There are a few things in my life, that stay, others come and go. I like it this way and I think, it keeps me feel alive. Oh, and I do not measure my sexual prowess, and certainly not by how much self-bondage I am doing.

By the way, I find it easier to stay interested in something, if I start slowly. For self-bondage, this would rather be a piece of rope than a fully equipped automated dungeon 😉 .

[madboyevil]

Well in my case, the chances of getting new stuff is kind of difficult and I'm always trying to find what should I buy and that's whats keeping me interested. The self-bondage part is something i've lost interest, because I don't have the equipment necessary to do a great self-bondage session. I know I could use a lot of things to do a self-bondage session, but what keep me going is that I still have a lot of things to try and it will take a while unfortunately.