Are you married? Do you live alone?

[Zooy]

What fish you catch depends very much on in which pond you fish.
You are right if you look in a traditional conservative environment. In a liberal and open society chances are much better. Among young people in Amsterdam you might have a better than 50-50 chance.

[Like Ra]

You think young people in NL are interested in fetish? Probably more tolerant? Yes.

[Zooy]

You think young people in NL are interested in fetish? Probably more tolerant? Yes.

i would say more tolerant.

[ebear_ca]

I'm technically married you might say; been with the same lady for over 25 years under the same roof, but we never married.  I'm now 74 (2020) and knew when I was 18 I didn't want children and that has never changed.  I met my lady on a kink hot line so she knows most of my interests, and at first participated.  Then her health started to fail and our mutual activity started to wane until now there is no activity at all and she is practically bed ridden!  Due to her health we have separate bedrooms and I do play alone on occasion but the desire has never left and is much a part of my life as it ever was.  She doesn't want to know what I'm up to and really wishes I would give it up, but I never will!  I have actually expanded my areas of interest and will continue to expand them, in whatever direction they may take me.  I will not cheat on my lady while she lives and that is a hard an fast rule that I will keep! Thanks to Like Ra for finally getting my log in problems solved!

[MIWSTIUS]

Married, happily living together and open about the fetishes from the getgo.

NEVER keep secrets imo. If it doesn't work out because of the fetish, I'd say she isn't THE one for you.
In way, keeping the secret is lying to yourself as well imo.
Always reminds me of that Dutch Men in onepiece swimsuit forum where plenty of remorse goes around,
guys crying about breakups after they let the swimsuit fetish secret fester for years.