HI guys, i'm setting again my RandomDresser. I've made an "Additional Category" including for ex: Blindfold, ButtPlug, BellCollar to make some noise for the girl nextdoor, earplug, Nippleclamps ecc. All things to make sessions more exciting. Can you help me to complete this Category? 😁 All ideas are welcome. Thank You!
I spent a chunk of yesterday daydreaming about bondage, which ultimately led me to thinking about a self-bondage session. Last night I thought some more, and decided that I'd give a good ol' fashioned ball tie a shot. I did some reading (some here, some elsewhere) to get in the mood, and one of the recurring themes was "if you do this right, you WILL NOT be moving."
I have done the Bondage Life ball tie (https://www.likera.com/sb/tech/balltie1.php) a few times in the past, and while it was fine I'm just not quite flexible enough to really be comfortable with putting my arms back through ropes around my thighs like that one prescribes. On top of that, when I did that in the past I seem to remember being able to move around SOME, and I wanted to see how far I could push this. So, instead of tying my upper arms to my thighs, I decided I'd go a little more traditional and use a "lashing strap" (http://www.harborfreight.com/set-of-2-1-...67386.html) to help fold me in half and cinch my torso and knees / upper thighs together. THIS was something I'd never done, so it was certainly of interest!
Traditionally I've also had a tough time getting the ring device to work well for me, so I've got a rope ratchet modified with a "swivel hook trigger snap" in place of the standard S-hook that comes on the rope ratchet. I decided that would be my final tensioning device.
This morning I had some time to myself, so I gathered the rest of the goods: my Stockroom basic leather cuffs (ankle and wrist), my 6" stiletto heels, my ball gag, my clover nipple clamps, and the rope. I stripped down, then got to work.
First up: the shoes. I bought them from Fredericks of Hollywood ages ago for not a lot of money. Standard patent leather pumps, they've got a true 6-inch stiletto heel and no platform to them. They're ridiculously uncomfortable, but I still think I can wear them once in a while. They have a thin ankle strap that prevents kicking them off - that's always buckled when I put them on, and it's showing the wear.
Next, I locked the ankle cuffs on, then padlocked them together via their D-rings. I've learned that, while it's POSSIBLE to use a single lock to keep the cuffs on as well as lock them together, if you're planning on putting any tension on that center spot you do NOT want to lock the hasps together - the tension angles them over and they dig into your ankle or wrist.
The rope ratchet, with the 1/4" nylon rope already loaded, was clipped onto this center lock via the trigger snap. I gave it a good tug to verify it's going nowhere.
I tied a simple loop in the rope a couple feet away from my ankles, then passed that loop through the D-rings of my wrist cuffs. I've found that this trick gives me the freedom I need to lock the cuffs on each wrist, then when I pull the rope tight it will pull the d rings together. (Imagine this, but loose and with both D-rings instead of the single ring: http://www.geospectra.net/kite/knots/knot09.jpg ).
I still had several feet of rope left, and this is where my escape plan comes in. I attached the keys for my padlocks (all keyed alike) to the end of the rope, along with a pair of EMT shears "just in case." I wasn't quite sure how immobile I'd be or how uncomfortable it would be, so I decided that I wouldn't set up any sort of timer this time.
Next up, I put the clamps on my nipples and arranged the chain to hang between my thighs as I bent down. I knew cinching the strap around my torso and behind my knees would likely put added pressure on the clamps, and I looked forward to that.
The torso cinch strap came next. I debated putting it behind my neck and behind my knees, but in the end decided under my arms and behind my knees was just fine. I bent forward and gave it a couple of good tugs, enjoying the compression of my chest against my thighs.
The ball gag was next. I should have maybe put it on before the cinch strap - it was a tiny bit hard to balance while crouched down and wearing my heels.
Next was the wrist cuffs. This was my first real indication that this was going to be a tough tie. I can usually get the cuffs locked on with little problem, but I'm not usually putting myself into a ball tie. The first cuff was easy, but it took some struggling to get the second cuff situated over the hasp and have it be tight enough to satisfy me. I got it, snapped the little padlock closed, then relaxed for a second before pulling the rope between my wrists and ankles tight.
At that instant, I was happy I put the keys and shears on the end of the rope. Even without tightening the wrist-ankle rope, this was a TIGHT tie.
It took me a couple tries to even get ahold of the loose end of the rope, but I managed. I gave the rope a pull, felt it slip up between my cheeks as it tightened, then gave it one final tug before dropping the loose end.
And there I was. Crouched down, but still on my feet. Black stiletto heels an inch apart, if that. Chest to my thighs. Clamps biting into my nipples. Ball gag strap pulling at the corners of my mouth. My arms felt like they were welded to my back. I could BARELY move them back and forth. I tested the strap around my torso / legs - there was NO give. To think, I'd toyed with blindfolding myself as well!
After a few minutes, I decided that I'd had enough of the crouching. In order to get free, I was going to need to lay down on my side anyway - no time like the present, right?
It took me a couple attempts before I got the courage to go for it, but when I did....
I don't know if it was the tie or the height of the heels or everything together, but as I fell onto my side I just kept going and ended up flat on my back. It was comfortable - I wasn't laying on my arms or anything. But....I couldn't do ANYTHING.
I could get about 1/16 of a roll either direction, but with my arms beside me almost acting as outriggers, that little bit of roll was all I could do. I tried to rock back and forth to get rolled onto my side...nope. Not going to happen.
That's fine. I'll enjoy the bondage. I wondered - fantasized, even - about what my wife would do if she came home from work early and found me like this. She's not a big bondage fan....would she freak out? Would she take it in stride? Take the keys so I couldn't get free? The heels would probably be the biggest shock to her - she has NO idea I've got them.
I wiggled my feet, which were in the air now. I could move my toes a couple inches at most. My hands? Hardly any movement. Anything else? NO.
Then I began to think about my escape. I could pull the keys and shears over easily....but was I going to be able to actually unlock myself?
Even though I was comfortable and wanted to stay tied up for a little longer, I decided I'd best test my escape. I pulled rope, got the keys in my hand....and realized my hunch was right, there was no way I was going to do my usual "unlock the other wrist" escape. I couldn't even reach the padlock, much less get a key in and unlock it.
That's fine, I have a backup plan! Time to grab the shears. Hmmm....my wrists are SNUG together - guess I'll go for the rope leading to my ankles?
I tried to get the shears around the rope, but it was TIGHT against my body. I had to use one hand to pull the rope away from my body, and tried to feel my way to getting the rope into the shears. The rope was too tight into my crack - there was no way I was getting that rope cut, especially without risking cutting myself.
Next up, I guess I'll go after the rope between my wrists. I turned the shears, and was pretty sure I had the rope between the blades. I squeezed the best I could - nothing. Was I trying to cut too many pieces at once? I took another shot, gave them a squeeze....I felt them closing. GOOD - I was making progress!
I opened them to try again, then....dropped them? No, I have them in my hand. But I felt them drop.....
OH CRAP.
I realized that the shears had just fallen apart.
This is when I freaked out. I knew there was no way I was getting the cuffs unlocked with my keys. The torso/leg strap wasn't going anywhere. I struggled with every bit of strength I had - nothing even remotely budged.
My mind began to work overtime, a not-so-mild panic. I need to get out of this NOW. How long until my wife comes home? Only....about 6 hours. There's NO WAY I can lay here on my back, balltied, gagged, nipple clamped, unable to MOVE for SIX HOURS. I don't care if she catches me like this - that isn't even a concern right now. I WANT OUT BEFORE THEN!!!!
I took as deep of a breath as I could, then assessed the situation. Maybe...just maybe....
I took one half of the shears, found the sharp side, and found the rope. I began sawing against the rope.
Fortunately, the shears WERE sharp - it didn't take much to get through the rope, setting my wrists free.
I quickly released the tension of the body strap, more to settle my mind than get comfortable.
It took me a couple more moments to get my mind settled down. This was, easily, the closest I've EVER come to being stuck in self bondage in 20+ years.
Thinking back, I think maybe I caught part of the cuff's D-ring in the shears as I was trying to cut the rope between my wrists. Because I wasn't perfectly square to the ring, it torqued the halves of the shears in a bad way and the rivet holding them together failed. The rope cut much easier than I expected when sawed at with the shears....thankfully.
So, my overall thoughts?
Yes, I'll do it again.
This was, by FAR, the most complete, immobilizing self-bondage experience I've ever had. I'd even go so far as to call it one of the most satisfying bondage experiences I've ever had. (Not that I've been tied up a LOT by someone else...but when I have, it hasn't been as restrictive).
I feel a little irritation on my sides, under my arms, where the nylon strap sat. I think that's from my freak out and struggle more than anything. A wider strap would help, I think - maybe a belt? Time to hit the thrift store!
I need to give a lot more consideration to my escape. I'm not sure how to make the escape more fool-proof, but I've got to come up with something. Unlocking my cuffs isn't going to work - I just don't think I'll have the slack in the bondage to do that. I don't think I've got the room to add an ice lock or similar between my wrists and ankles....and even if I did, I'm not sure it would make much difference!
I'll try it without the stilettos, just to see if that's what ended me up flat on my back instead of on my side.
And, lastly, I'll have my backup / rescue (aka wife) either on speed dial or much closer to getting home the next time.
OR, maybe I'll just have to plan accordingly and leave her a surprise..... 😊
browsing youtube videos, I liked an ad for a commercial SB electromagnetic lock in the form of a flat wooden box with an electromagnet in the center top.
I didn't like one aspect of the commercial product - it used a battery, which is an uncertain energy drain device. I powered my home made version with a battery, but also had a timer. So I whipped up my DIY skills and made one.
After activating the magnet, I clamped the wood box to the edge of my dining room table with a couple C clamps. (Good housekeeping tip - put a bit of cardboard under the post to keep from marring the table's underside).
Place handcuff keys on table, out of reach. Sit in chair. padlock the metal disk that mates with the electromagnetic lock to handcuffs. Put on cuffs. Hold metal disk near magnet, and THUNK!
😊 I'm going nowhere for 15 minutes.
I can't see the clock. Theres enough residual magnetism that I don't realize I'm free for a bit after it shuts off. After I've learned that tugging on the handcuffs just hurts, I'm reduced to sitting quietly, and don't try tugging for a bit. When I do it's more accidental than purposful.
OK, that was fun. Reset the timer for 30 minutes. Fresh battery. During the first session I had lots of chances to think about my lack of an emergency escape, so this time I put my well charged cell phone in easy reach.
I have a mirror in the dining room, but it was at a funny angle during the 15 minutes session. For the 30 I move the box and chair so I'm looking into it.
I'd have gone for a third round, but I'm out of 9 volt batteries.
Need an emergency release of the foul liquid variety? Have some tech skills?
take apart an old mouse and solder wires to the contacts for the button.
Tape over the movement sensor. Now plug it in along with a second mouse to a pc.
The free ends of the wires go to a mercury switch secured to a container. Drop key in container.
Log into Likera.com and start through the donation process. Put in an amount large enough you're uncomfortable with it.
put the mouse cursor over the last button to be clicked to confirm.
To get the key you're going to have to part with some cash.
I am looking for a vibrator that I can plug in to a timer, that the timer would turn the vibrator on and off at certain intervals. Sounds easy enough.
However, I am also wanting the vibrator to have a random or pulse type function, so when it is activated you won't know what pattern is coming on, or at least it is a pulse pattern.
I have seen wands or magic wands that would meet the "plug-in" part of my search, but does anyone know of a wand or other vibrator that once you set the desired pattern, and it is turned off, when it turns on it is still the same pulse type pattern?
I am looking for this device as the tease mechanism for self bondage!!!
Hi guys, unfortunately after searching like crazy I can't seem to find a piece of gear that I do not know the name of. There's two cuffs that go on each upper arm, connected by a strap. In the middle of the strap is a perpendicular strap that connects to a very wide cuff and is worn like a box tie (any variation of this is fine). I remember seeing a cheap one on ebay or amazon a while ago but couldn't find it (i don't think i'd trust a cheap one anyway). Any ideas?
the best i can find is a digital painting of something similar:
Or in my case... Time for a session has got up and ran away.
Was hoping for a session early next week when I had time off work, but my wife realised she had holiday allowance to use before the end of the financial year so she is now also off work.
I guess couple time is now happening.
Well I never. Apparently '...wrapping a female's legs with silk prior to and during copulation' affords the male Pisaurina mira '... more opportunities for sperm transfer'.
Quote:Benefits of size dimorphism and copulatory silk wrapping in the sexually cannibalistic nursery web spider, Pisaurina mira
Alissa G. Anderson, Eileen A. Hebets
Published 24 February 2016.DOI: 10.1098/rsbl.2015.0957
Abstract
In sexually cannibalistic animals, male fitness is influenced not only by successful mate acquisition and egg fertilization, but also by avoiding being eaten. In the cannibalistic nursery web spider, Pisaurina mira, the legs of mature males are longer in relation to their body size than those of females, and males use these legs to aid in wrapping a female's legs with silk prior to and during copulation. We hypothesized that elongated male legs and silk wrapping provide benefits to males, in part through a reduced likelihood of sexual cannibalism. To test this, we paired females of random size with males from one of two treatment groups—those capable of silk wrapping versus those incapable of silk wrapping. We found that males with relatively longer legs and larger body size were more likely to mate and were less likely to be cannibalized prior to copulation. Regardless of relative size, males capable of silk wrapping were less likely to be cannibalized during or following copulation and had more opportunities for sperm transfer (i.e. pedipalpal insertions). Our results suggest that male size and copulatory silk wrapping are sexually selected traits benefiting male reproductive success.
