Ok, I want to add some things here as a transwoman myself. At 43 I finally came to terms that I am a transgender woman. I started transition last fall and have been on HRT since early December 2013. In mid march I started living full time and being transgender has allowed me to be me. I'm still kinky and into bondage, but it's taken the backseat on priorities. (My wife and I still play in our local dungeon.) I just got my court order my my name change and my letters to change my gender on my DL, Passport and SS card. (Just waiting the 30 days for the court order to go into effect.) There are many transgender women who DON'T get surgery. For some it's not a requirement. For me, I will definitely have one of the surgeries and leaning towards full SRS. I'm just scared to loose sensitivity. I know many transwomen who identify as a lesbian like myself that only get an orchiectomy done and they are perfectly happy with that.
Being transgender is NOT a fetish, (but I love wearing fetish clothing), but there is a commonality between transgenderism and cross dressing. Cross dressing is by itself is a fetish when one gets sexually exited by the act (Nothing wrong with that at all), but generally that person doesn't want to live as a woman everyday. Once you go all the way as a transgender woman, that's it, you can't really go back to the way things were. Cross dressing you can go back anytime you want.
Being transgender is NOT a fetish, (but I love wearing fetish clothing), but there is a commonality between transgenderism and cross dressing. Cross dressing is by itself is a fetish when one gets sexually exited by the act (Nothing wrong with that at all), but generally that person doesn't want to live as a woman everyday. Once you go all the way as a transgender woman, that's it, you can't really go back to the way things were. Cross dressing you can go back anytime you want.