Be fit, be pretty and crossdress more! Motivational thread

[Like Ra]

I was the thinnest two years ago ~70kg (see https://www.likera.com/blog/wp/archives/69344 and https://www.likera.com/blog/wp/archives/69357). Now I'm 77+ with wrong curves

At the beginning of the year me and my wife saw digits 79+ and 69.5 and ... we decided to ... stop @#$% eating!!!! 😁
The current results are 68.8 and 60.5 correspondingly. We generally eat much less, than before. My wife does not eat every second day (~36 hours without food). I eat every day, but even less every 2nd day (with my wife). The general rules are - as less carbohydrates possible, and avoid "constant munching on something" 😆

"Exercising more" does not help, you literally have to stop eating. "The Internet wisdom" says, that you can easily live one day on 600-700gr of your white fat. I think it's quite right.

[Like Ra]

CaloriesIN>CaloriesBURNT

Absolutely 😊

Or if you dive deeper into more details:

In: food, water, breath, energy
Out: waste, breath, water, energy
Balance: waste, breath, water, energy, other stuff (liquids, tissues, bones, fat, etc...)

(Let's leave "informational metabolism" out of the equation for the time being 😉)

IMHO, ideally, the "balance" should replace what is damaged, keep some "physical" cache, and store as much as possible energy (in the Eastern sense).

[MIWSTIUS]

This subject is one that relates to that iffy discussion I had at the men-in-swimsuit forum.

Just because I advised against wearing Lycra in public in case your physical shape is beyond a certain standard (big beer belly for example), some of the forum members said they felt insulted and personally attacked.

So, I wonder...if those characters can't even distinguish PSA advice from a personal attack, how are they gonna handle a social incident in public space due to their risky Lycra looks?

Btw, good to hear you're in better shape now Ra. I'm of similar height as you are - but I was underweight last December due to depression (61.5KG).

[Like Ra]

how are they gonna handle a social incident in public space due to their risky Lycra looks?

I think Germany is the most tolerant country in the world now. Most likely there will be no such incidents.

I was underweight last December due to depression (61.5KG).

Whoa... I can imagine 67... OK, 65. But 61.5... OTOH, this is what depressions are about. I hope it's getting better now! That's another reason we have this forum! 😉

[MIWSTIUS]

how are they gonna handle a social incident in public space due to their risky Lycra looks?

I think Germany is the most tolerant country in the world now. Most likely there will be no such incidents.

I was underweight last December due to depression (61.5KG).

Whoa... I can imagine 67... OK, 65. But 61.5... OTOH, this is what depressions are about. I hope it's getting better now! That's another reason we have this forum! 😉

 Yeah, I lost my dad in May 2020 (non covid cause) and seven other family members within 2020 and due to the pandemic situation with me being halfway accross the globe away from my home country,  I couldnt even attend his funeral in person and that affected mindset & physical weight.

Anyway, in general I have a pretty well-timed signal from tummy-to-brain, telling me it's full. 

I've only been grossly overweight once in my life at 98 KG and that lasted for about a year ( happened almost 2 decades ago) ....but then I decided I wanted true change, because I was really sick of myself, but also for my future prospects of getting into a relationship and properly fitting into Lycra of course.  I went through a rigorous diet & cardio program resulting into a 36 KG weightloss in 3 months time.

[PurpleVibes]

How do you manage your negative inner thoughts? In the past few days a depressive state suddenly kicked in.

I upload an uncanny amount of pictures of beautiful women, and I just noticed how physically horrendous I am. I don't know if my self-image is being changed by those pictures or what, but the more pictures I find, the more I think that looking gorgeous isn't that hard. And if it isn't that hard, then it only means I'm being lazy and prefer looking at pictures instead of working on my body to improve my looks, which triggers the depressive state.

The worst part comes when I start taking care of my body, but I realize that I will improve in a manly manner, not a feminine one. In the end I feel like I'm stuck, if I don't do anything I'm not improving, but if I do something about it, I'll start changing in a way I find unattractive. It's an awful vicious cycle to be in 😟

Another thing I wish to do is start uploading photos of myself instead of finding good pics, but then again the quality gap is so big that I'll just enter that depressive state again. Maybe the real question I want to answer to myself is: How do I improve and close the gap between my mental image and my real self?

What are your thoughts?

[Like Ra]

What are your thoughts?

Almost exactly the same as yours 😂 Same issues, same thoughts, same frustrations, same "no idea what to do next", same "I think I'm stuck", etc. And according to the "next level ones" - THIS is the purpose of life ॐ 🙏

Or is it just a midlife crisis? ⚧⛧😲

[essanym]

How do you manage your negative inner thoughts? In the past few days a depressive state suddenly kicked in.

I upload an uncanny amount of pictures of beautiful women, and I just noticed how physically horrendous I am. I don't know if my self-image is being changed by those pictures or what, but the more pictures I find, the more I think that looking gorgeous isn't that hard. And if it isn't that hard, then it only means I'm being lazy and prefer looking at pictures instead of working on my body to improve my looks, which triggers the depressive state.

The worst part comes when I start taking care of my body, but I realize that I will improve in a manly manner, not a feminine one. In the end I feel like I'm stuck, if I don't do anything I'm not improving, but if I do something about it, I'll start changing in a way I find unattractive. It's an awful vicious cycle to be in

Another thing I wish to do is start uploading photos of myself instead of finding good pics, but then again the quality gap is so big that I'll just enter that depressive state again. Maybe the real question I want to answer to myself is: How do I improve and close the gap between my mental image and my real self?

What are your thoughts?

Almost exactly the same as yours 😂 Same issues, same thoughts, same frustrations, same "no idea what to do next", same "I think I'm stuck", etc. And according to the "next level ones" - THIS is the purpose of life ॐ 🙏

Or is it just a midlife crisis? ⚧⛧😲

I don't have much to add except to say, you're not alone... we're not alone.  I think this is probably very common, especially these days when many people have been more sedentary due to lockdowns.  Covid weight gain is a real problem.  I've been temporarily laid off from a decently physical job for a year and some months.  I actually think I'm eating better than I was but I'm also moving a whole lot less.  I'm not a lot bigger, I'm still wearing the same size pants as I was, it's just that they're tight and if I bend too much, the button snaps open.  Good news for me, though, I just signed my letter of reinstatement and am due to restart my job June 28.  Hopefully I can keep up the momentum of eating better and this covid weight will start to leave me.  This past year of unemployment and my wife working for twitch has allowed me to bank some money so when I do get back to a decently good size (hopefully) I will be able to order some awesome stuff from kigcos.com.

Life is hard and motivation is in short supply for some of us.  I wish us all luck in achieving our goals.

[Bound Whore]

At my heaviest, I was 137 kg (~254 pounds) at 1,94m (~6'4) and got down to ~116 kg (with another 20 kg to go, but slow and steady wins the race).
I was aeady determined to finally get into better shape before I took a dive into the deep-end of these here forums.

I knew they existed for a long time, but I only recently decided to join, dig deeper, be more commited to my kinks (and discover new ones) and try to establish a fetish persona for myself along with fearlessly documenting my exploits, thanks to being able to be anonymous among like-minded internet strangers.

Well, wearing tight, fetish-y clothes (which is a new notch in my belt) is not flattering unless you're in very good shape, as I guess we all are very aware. And the camera adds 10 pounds as they say (and there were two cameras on me during one of my posted videos, so go figure.)

Seeing this sad, saggy ass made me want to get into better shape even more.



   



So now it's donkey kicks, dirty dogs, squats and lunges every other day (I walk 12-15 kilometers every other day inbetween or bike) and seeing even the smallest results feels great.



I want to fit into all these amazing shiny, stretchy, glossy suits and leotards I see on here.

I want to be able to at least pretend to be a hot slut more easily on occasion, even if I don't go out for all to see (thanks, Bambi).



So yes, no longer supressing my kinks or keeping them on a short leash (heh!) and instead embracing them fully is helping me to be (and more importantly: wanting to be) in better shape. It's harder now that I'm in my early fifties, but it can be done and I will do it.



The submissive slut gene in me also makes me take better care of my skin regimen. Shaving, exfoliating, moisturizing more regularly ... all that shit that men usually tend to find "girly", is such a joy now and it's doing one's body good.



I'll reward myself with a custom-measured latex suit (or two 😋 ) once I reach my goal.

[Like Ra]

I am a marathon runner

COOL! (Running is not very good for joints, though ... 😕)