While not bodily restraining at all, the online world of second life still provides many items, that can restrain your avatar, and, when using good stuff, this does a lot to your imagination. There are various "viewers" to play Second Life. One is called "Real Love Viewer", which is a silly name, but it had to be changed from "Real Restrained Viewer" to that, due to regulations by the game provider. Well, you do need this viewer, available on the internet.
First the basics of "Real Restraint":
Any restraint, such as handcuffs, ropes and the like, is "worn" as an "attachment". This means, it is attached to the body of your avatar and triggers a "pose" to make the avatar look like he is bound. the item will also display the appropriate bondage gear, a rope around the wrists for example. Better restraints can be manipulated by clicking them or sending chat messages. You can wear the restraint unlocked and move freely. Then you "lock" it, and it will put you into the designed bondage posture. Locking can be tied to a timer, which will automatically unlock the device after a given time. If locked by someone else who touches your restraint, it might be impossible to unlock it by yourself. But, if using the official viewer, you always have two options: Take off the restraint, or right-click it and reset the scripts inside. The Real Love viewer goes one step further, because it has been designed for BDSM role playing. However, restraints need appropriate scripts to take advantage of these features. As a result, a restraint can be made undetachable when it is locked (or even as soon as it is worn). There are various other features but they are not important here. I will explain some of them later.
So, using the Real Love viewer, if you wear a Real Love compatible restrained: Once it is locked by someone else, you cannot take it off, your avatar looks bound and you can't do anything about it. The other person (sometimes anyone) has to release you. In most cases, you can trigger the bondage by yourself and then release yourself as well. You can start a timer that keeps you tied up until it runs out, no escape until then. These timers can usually be set to a time from a few minutes up to several months. Once you log out, the status is saved, if you come back, you will still be bound, the timers usually refer to online-time rather than real time, they are stopped when you go offline. One escape is always possible, log onto the standard viewer and take off the restraint. But good restraints re-apply automatically, once you log onto the Real Love viewer. Unfortunately, there are restraints, which do that too, but mess up the system, so be careful. There are also timers that trigger the bondage after a given time, and then for a given duration. I cannot describe all possible variations, but if you look around, you will find many.
Ok, using the Real Love viewer, you can do some self-bondage, timed, secure and safe. After a given time, the bondage will fall off or you can take it off by yourself. If you have some empathy with your avatar, this can be quite some fun. Just like in real life, you might want to avoid being seen by others, but since nobody knows the player behind the avatar, you can push the risk much further.
I will explain some interesting methods in the following posts. Anyone else who has good ideas can do that too, feel invited!
A closer look to Marine Kelley's "Shibari Arms"
Shibari Arms is a fully Real Love compatible set of bondage ropes, that can be applied to the arms and upper body. You need to wear all items on your avatar, and then a simple mouse click opens a control menu with a couple of buttons for bondage styles. Clicking on one of these buttons will tie up the wearer, and only the person, who has clicked, can instantly release him. Other persons, though not the wearer, are presented with a puzzle that they need to solve. This puzzle is not too hard, but it takes some time and there is no explanation, makes it a bit harder to find a friendly but unknown person to release you.
In order to help your imagination, here an image showing my avatar unbound, then bound, with hair up to show all ropework.
Ok, you could do all this by yourself, you only need to read the instructions that come with the restraints. Now some more interesting features (partially documented as well) concerning self-bondage:
1. Timer
You can set a timer to keep you tied up until it runs out, no access to most features of the restraint. You only have a few options then, except for waiting.
- you can add time to the timer
- you can fight against the bondage and perhaps get free (quite unlikely though)
2. Autotie
A feature, that many of us would like in real life, the bondage will be triggered after a given time and stay on for a given time (or be detachable right away). Once started, you can't stop the timer. But it will warn you shortly before bondage starts, so you can find a safe place first.
3. There are two ways to trigger the control menu, clicking one of the parts of the restraint or typing "/77" into chat. Both methods can be switched off, this applies only while you are tied up.
In order to switch off the clicking method, you need to go to plugins - controls - touch and there switch off "touch self".
In order to switch off the chat command, you must be tied up, but by yourself and with no timer, because otherwise you can't get to this control. Simply click your ties, select special, then "/77 off".
Switching off both methods lets you still trigger the bondage, but you got no access to the menu anymore. Any other avatar can free you by solving the puzzle game, but you can't.
Well, there is one other feature, that lets you get to the control menu: Recent editions of Marine Kelley's restraints come with an Animation Override, which controls some of your movements, to look even more realistic. You can even get a control HUD (head up display) to change the settings. The control of these HUDs eventually leads back to the main control menu of the restraint. If you want to be really stuck, you need to delete any copy of these HUDs (also from the Trash folder), or at least take them off and disable the use of your inventory (which can be done in the control menu as well).
The "worst" scenario:
The latest editions of the Real Love viewer are standalone, you don't need to have the official viewer installed. Disable /77 and click to control your restraints when active and remove the Animation HUD(s). Restrain yourself and close the control menu. You will need to install the official viewer to release yourself, no instant freedom!
There is one feature, that I would like though: The ropes come with buttons to "tug", "wiggle" and "fight". These allow you to fight for freedom. Chances are low, and after a certain number of attempts, you have to give up and wait an hour or so. This is a way to escape, but it might take days or even longer. This would be a nice teaser if you are otherwise hopelessly bound, but as soon as you can't access the control menu, you cannot use these buttons anymore.
Other scenarios:
You could use several sets of restraints. For example, bind your arms without any escape and add accessible leg ties. Then play with the timer and autotie for the legs. Like this, you could explore many areas of SL (remember, that being in bondage could offend some people, best stick to the "explicit" areas), do pretty much anything except for using your arms. Of course, leg ties impair your walking and flying (yes, you can fly in SL) abilities.
Considering various things, I have done in my life, I really wonder, if being discovered during SB is the worst thing that could happen to me, or if worse things have happened already.
Let's make the "being discovered" a bit more clear first. I have called police once, because I was hopelessly drunk and unable to find the keys to my handcuffs AND I was wearing a nice black lycra leotard. Of course I felt really uneasy when I called the police but when they arrived, they were really nice about it, this was not bad at all! I rather mean discoveries that involve people that you have to spend time with again and again, and who will enjoy using this knowledge to your disadvantage. This could be neighbours, family, colleagues, friends etc. (some people say, that friends would not do that, but others have thousands of "friends" on facebook", it is just an example anyway).
When I was younger, I eventually drove drunk, especially, when I was too drunk to consider better not to drive. One night, I left a party in the countryside and suddenly noticed, that I was going the wrong way. So I wanted to turn around. Unfortunately, there was a ditch right next to the street that I hadn't seen, and my car was stuck. I must have fallen asleep then, someone woke me up and told me it would be better to leave. So he took me to his house and asked me if there was someone would could pick me up. Eventually, I managed to remember the phone number of my mother, and so things went on. The car was towed away before police could find it, I kept my license etc. - all fine in theory. But this was the most humiliating experience I ever had in my life: I was so wasted, I could hardly communicate, I was merely helpless, not even able to think a clear though, put aside having my own will. That was the one and fortunately only day in my life, where I was a complete idiot - and I knew it!
Considering that memory, I still don't have a desire to be found while doing SB, but rather that, than having a similar experience again.
Your turn now...
PS: Don't worry about my drinking, I haven't been drunk for more than 10 years now 😉
Hooray, got my eBay: Realise Swimsuit today and it fits! I am 1,83m tall and right below 80 kgs, and I ordered size LL. Perhaps 3L would have been better, this suit is very tight. On the other hand, I am wearing it for about an hour now, and don't feel like taking it off yet. Actually, the front seams of the arm openings are biting a bit. Apart from this, the suit is completely wrinkle free when worn. And the crotch is definitely wide enough for a man!
I put this thread under "PVC" because the suit is made from PU (polyurethane), which is basically PVC - and nylon for the inside layer. The nylon feels close to lycra, the PU is a bit like rubber, but harder. Somewhere between the 70s thin rainjackets and very thin rubber.
It took me 5 minutes to put the suit on. First of all, I was careful, you never know, how strong seams are, before you put them under stress. Then I had to struggle with the back zipper. Until closed, the zipper creates a V (fully open) to Y (partially closed) line and it needs some stretching to close it. Though I am quite used to close back zippers, I could not do this with bare hands. So I attached a key ring and string. Even then, I had to grab the upper ends of the zipper lines and pull them together. It takes a while until the suit arranges itself around the torso, perhaps one should do some exercises to speed this up. Anyway, every single move is rewarding, all ends up in the crotch 😁
Well, I paid almost 170 Euros, this is a lot of money for me. However, I do not regret it, this suit is very very sexy (and I promised, that I won't ever use this word in a wrong way). When my wallet has swallowed this heavy blow, I might order another one, but then size 3L and perhaps in white. My suit is black with silver borders.
Well, there isn't much more to say right now. The seller did a good job, I got the suit within a week's time, very good customs documentation attached to the outside of the envelope (helps a lot for German customs procedures). The seams look very strong, very special stitching, and that is, what I will watch during the next few months. If anything breaks, makes ugly noises or makes me unhappy in any way, I will report that here. As long as everything is fine, I will try to say so once in a while. Now I am going to take a photograph for evidence.
PS: I noticed, that there are two sizes "LL" and "3L": Japanese 3L is European LL. Taking into account that Japanese people are somewhat smaller than European, I suppose, that I got the European size LL, which then must be the largest size available.
PPS: In the blog, someone said, that PU doesn't stretch. I think, this is wrong. I checked the suit, it stretches in both directions, a little more to the sides. And most probably, the stretchability depends on the carrier fabric much more than on the PU coating. But of course, latex or lycra can stretch much more.
It was cheap, and so I recently ordered a bedsheet, duvet cover and pillowcase in black pvc. The parcel arrived a few days ago and I tried it the same night.
Sizing: The bedsheet was exactly the size indicated, i.e. not - as expected - it is not suitable for a matress of that size. For duvet cover and pillowcase I didn't know exactly the sizes, but my estimations worked well.
Pillowcase and duvet cover have no zipper, the openings stay open. That's probably bad for those, who like watersports, but no real concern for me.
Material: The pvc is strong, outside shiny and the inside rough-dull. there is a strong typical pvc-smell, which, according to some customer reviews fades quickly. Actually, the backside is not sexy at all, but it remains invisible while in use.
Well, I decided to spend one night in my new bedclothes - naked, for a complete experience. On the first touch, the pvc is cold, but it warms up quickly. My duvet is fairly heavy and so the pvc hugged nearly all of my skin. I tried to read a book, but the constant stimulation from the pvc kept my brain too busy and so I decided to sleep. Once in a suitable position, the special pvc-feeling slowly faded, I calmed down and would have been able to sleep. But there is another effect of the pvc, it reflects heat. After a little while, I was almost boiling and so I had to give up. In the end, I wrapped myself into the bedsheed, finished the experiment and turned my bed back to normal.
PVC bedclothes are certainly good for having sex and watersports, to impress your fellow fetishists or shock your family, but unless you are used to sleep in a sauna, they are not suitable for sleeping. This is especially important for those, who like to spend their nights in timed bondage. Well, it goes over the normal bedclothes and can be taken off in seconds.
