I would send her a card. Saying...
Dear ********
I’m sorry. I did not mean to upset you so.
Please forgive me and I will not talk about this ever again.
I love you, very much so. So, with this letter, I’ll say again,
Dear ******* I love you and I do not want hurt you. Please forgive me.
And then sign your name.
Keep your fetish a secret. I know it’s hard and all, I to have to keep a low profile when I do my play.
There is nothing (in this particular case) to ask forgiveness for. One likes coffee, another one tea. Is the first one guilty? One thing - it should've come up earlier.
(This post was last modified: 05 Dec 2019, 01:25 by Like Ra.)
Another point. We do not know the actual situation. Moreover, even "they" do not know the "actual" situation, because. obviously, "they" "percept" and "expect" differently. First day of any entry level NLP training.
That is true.
I’m just going on my personal experience decause I lost two girl friends, pretty much the same way. So, I hide my kink from almost everybody. After all isn’t that the point of self bondage is going at it yourself ?
Now, think about it. Self bondage is bondage by oneself. Not by others.
Bondage, on the other hand, is something done with a willing friend.
What I think he is trying to do, is to make a mistress out of a girlfriend.
And it’s not working. Is it ?
Lots to answer here.
Ra, yes. We still speak, but it’s awkward. Even simple questions like “how was your day” can turn awkward. I don’t want to give up trying though.
Also I agree with you on the fact we both strongly differ on one subject. It’s not that either party is at fault. To reply to Tinker, yes. I could try and keep it a “secret” but as she is now aware and has also told quite a few of my friends the secret is somewhat out of the bag. I feel she actively looks for any evidence or remaining clothing or restraints etc. Whilst I would love a mistress or at the very least someone to help me on my ventures. Even if it was just to fasten the last padlock to immobilise me and then unlock me in a few hours. The issue here is she stumbled across a few things, I tried to explain my true desires in bite size bits as not to overload, but even the idea of handcuffs sent her into a frenzy over the whole thing. Hell if I told her the worst of it I hate to think how it would have gone. The intention was never to get her inside as I know she is far too “vanilla” ,(gods I hate that word), it was just to let her be at least aware that this was something that I did as she deserved an explanation. Should I have divulged earlier and preferably before we got married. Probably yes. But it’s a little late for should of’s. the very notion of sharing something like that terrified me.
