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Periods or cycles of lost&found "interest"
#1
I bet you all noticed that from time to time we lose interest in fetish/bondage stuff. Almost to the point of guilt for wasted money and throwing the useless stuff away. You stop visiting fetish forums and searching for arousing images. Then the interest returns with a vengeance. Then disappears. And this vicious circle repeats for ages.

Did you notice how many weeks/months it takes for the interest to return/disappear?
Did you notice if it's related to anything? (vacation, workload, phase of the moon, exciting post, a girl on the street, whatever)
Did you notice how long your willingness to play last?

I'm not talking about masturbation now, because it's the ultimate interest-killer-guilt-inducer (one of the reasons why I try to avoid orgasms).

Basically, that's why I started to keep track of my orgasms (see the "orgasm calendar") and document my experience with erotic hypnosis.

Any thoughts? Ideas? Statistics?
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#2
Related threads:

Lost interest? What happen, what changed? <- please post your lost&found interest stories here. This thread is more for facts.
Feel like self bondage is a waste
Orgasm calendar and your "Last orgasm"
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#3
I do lose intrest in self bondage, but only when I see that the sites that also promotes my fetish clothing that I like to wear stocks only children size fetish clothing.
I'm tall, 5 feet 11 inches with a 34 inch waist. Not cm or mm or chi-com sizes.
Now that 89% of all fetish clothing are made in China and other counterys, there is no one that makes clothing that fits me.

So the intress dies.
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#4
(22 Dec 2017, 17:29 )Tinker D Wrote: the sites that also promotes my fetish clothing that I like to wear stocks only children size fetish clothing.
Yeah, zentai is now kids fashion Big Grin
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#5
Not just zentai, almost all clothing.
Example:
I like chair self bondage. I like dressing up in my nylons, plaid pleated skirt with bra, white shirt and vest.
2 inch heel boots or my Mary Jains.
My vibrater buzzes away as I struggle.
When the ice lock or timer releases me,
I'm pretty much done. But happy.
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But now, I can't find my skirt, boots or a top.
Even in so called plus size. I need clothing in Tall size.
Tall as in torso and arms. Anything close that will fit me is like China's 10X or Xxxxxxxxxxxxxl.
Custom? Don't make me puck. I send in measurements, only to get my item and it's all wrong " So sorry friend we thought you made error so we adjusted it."
Returns. Forget it. Lost too much money.
No costume? No bondage? No reasion to visit self bondage sites.
And that's why I don't do as much self bondage as I would like to.
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#6
(22 Dec 2017, 15:40 )Like Ra Wrote: I bet you all noticed that from time to time we lose interest in fetish/bondage stuff. Almost to the point of guilt for wasted money and throwing the useless stuff away. You stop visiting fetish forums and searching for arousing images. Then the interest returns with a vengeance. Then disappears. And this vicious circle repeats for ages.

Did you notice how many weeks/months it takes for the interest to return/disappear?
Did you notice if it's related to anything? (vacation, workload, phase of the moon, exciting post, a girl on the street, whatever)
Did you notice how long your willingness to play last?

I'm not talking about masturbation now, because it's the ultimate interest-killer-guilt-inducer (one of the reasons why I try to avoid orgasms).

Basically, that's why I started to keep track of my orgasms (see the "orgasm calendar") and document my experience with erotic hypnosis.

Any thoughts? Ideas? Statistics?

Great thread Ra. I usually go for a few months and the desire intensifies to the point where I'm buying something new every other day, dressing, self-bondage, looking for new EOTD material online constantly, etc. Then I reach a point of "disgust" for lack of a better word where I just have to stop for awhile. Sometimes weeks, sometimes months, but typically not more than a few months. Then there is a trigger. A TV show with dancers in heels and hose, a party with women beautifully dressed, a very stressful work week where I decide to have a glass of wine and "relax" by catching on on posts on likera.com :-) and I'm right back at square one again. The cycles have become less intense as the years roll by, but still strong. The biggest chance in the last few years is giving up the guilt. I'll "indulge" or not, but I'm working very hard to see the guilt for what it is, fooling myself. 

The latest trigger was at a local healthy food restaurant with my wife. She went to the bathroom and the server came over dressed in a short skirt with sheer tights layered over thigh socks, instant EOTD! I was shocked to hear myself asking her, "Great outfit! Are those tights or are you wearing layers?" She must have been in her mid-20s and with the candidness of 20 YOs these days, she didn't miss a beat. "Oh, it's so cold lately that I've been putting my tights over these warm socks." My wife returned at this point, but I wouldn't have asked any more questions anyway for fear of being creepy. Now I'm on layering tear... Pantyhose over stockings, fishnets over pantyhose, tights over whatever... Yeesh... my crazy inner world :-)!!!
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#7
I noticed correlations with vacations and full moons.
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#8
Interesting. I need to compare my orgasm calendar with a full moon periods.
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#9
One thing. I usually do not bring myself to orgasm by "my own conscious will". I just follow my body, "subconscious mind" or whatever it can be called. In other words, when it's "needed", not when I need it. The experiment was clean, because I began writing down my orgasms 3 months before I checked the moon phase calendar. The match was exact - one day before full moon for many consecutive months. But then the workload was so high (60-70 hour work weeks), that the sync was broken, and then - no orgasms since August Big Grin

Let me add full moons to the calendar...
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