(10 Oct 2018, 23:51 )Like Ra Wrote: (10 Oct 2018, 10:42 )bob_masters Wrote: The feeling of being used by 'strangers'. A helpless, hapless sexual object. Kept on edge for hours.
The big Unknown, Unpredictable and Random. You made your choice once, and then you have no choice. Do we actually have a free choice? A good thread on its own? 😉
Indeed, the big step into the unknown. Trust. Sex is a big one. Anything involving relationships, like a marriage, or a new job. Putting your life (or some part of it) in the hands of someone else. Even things as 'trivial' as getting on a plane. Trust in other people to do what they promise.
I have to say that - for me anyway - usually such steps and trust are disappointing. The promise is false, or less interesting than 'advertised'. Maybe my expectations are too great? My ideals and dreams get ahead of what is realistic? Sexually, or even in personal friendships, this is very true - of me.
In this specific case - bound and helpless, unable even to see or protest (if I wanted to) - it would be my mind that is working overtime to develop the fantasy. Who is it that is touching me? Whose fingers? Who is inside me? How many are there around me? What will they do to me? Will they hurt me? Will I be allowed to cum? And eventually - especially after I have cum - will they let me loose? For me I will do almost anything while I'm aroused, but once I've cum I need to pause/stop for a while, until I am aroused once more.
But giving up that 'freedom' or 'choice' is a big step, especially to strangers.
Do we actually have many real choices in life? Not that many - in my opinion. Trivial little things like which cereal to buy. In real life we only have the choices available to us - if it's not on offer there is no choice. Our parents and governments impose most 'choices' on us. Then our spouses. Our families. Our employers. The shops. We (men) don't really even choose our wives or girlfriends - they choose us, in reality. And we definitely do NOT have free choices around sex, unless of course you're happy with the schedule, role, position imposed by your partner? Which I believe most people are not (men or women).
A very interesting topic and worth a discussion thread - I think. But it's your choice 😉