(21 Jan 2013, 23:50 )Strappado Wrote: Apparently, you can stimulate the prostrate from the outside, between your legs.
I believe that, that there, is know as the perineum. ...I can't remember the last time I came (outwith having sex) without putting some form of pressure there. I don't even realise I'm doing it, it's completely automatic.
Like Ra Wrote:Strappado Wrote:why bicycle sports is considered dangerous for men (which is in fact not true at all).
I've heard the opposite statement - cycling is good for men because it stimulates the prostate gland.
Sounds like typical medical science to me... 😁
Tinker D Wrote:And here is another question.
Does a 1.5 mean across or all the way around?
1.5 inches across.
Tinker D Wrote:I tried the butt plug, So far so good. But I can't get that 1.5" dildo to go in. Even with lube. So, I am wondering if I have a small ass, or maybe I am ising the wrong size dildo.
I couldn't agree with krinlyc more: It takes time, patience, and lube. Lots of it. ...All of them.
When I first progressed onto toys, a 2.5-inch diameter buttplug used to scare the hell out of me. I was quite disappointed that I could only take a 1.5-inch one (and very slowly, at that). I wanted onto the bigger stuff.
Tomorrow.
Let me tell you, I distinctly remember the first time that I saw a clear, 2.5-inch jelly butt plug, come out
red. My face would have been as colourless as the plug should have been, I'm sure. I couldn't do anything but stare at it in disbelief.
Thankfully I was ok. It was the only red I saw, and it seemed to just clear right off, but the muscle pain was sore for a good few days.
Ever since then, though, I've tried to take it easy. And I'd strongly advise that anyone venturing into anal play, do the same.
Time, patience, and lube. Lots of it. ...All of them.
Putting that aside:
After years of anal play, I've managed to build up a good bit of muscle memory, so can manage a 2.5-inch butt plug with
relative ease (it's my new 'base' size).
For years I was stuck on 2-inches, but happened to stumble onto the realisation that I could sit with a 2.5-inch in quite happily. (I remember going out for a date to the cinema with it in, very shortly after, too 😉 (unbeknownst to my lady friend, I might add)).
So, if you find you can't fit something in, don't just panic, and sit there wondering
"why can't I?" (I used to scour forums and chat rooms looking for answers), just: relax, lube up, try, hold, try, hold, give up. Then come back the next time and see if you can get even a millimeter further. ...My bet is on
yes.
If you rush things, you can send your body into a sort of panic and it can clamp up (leaving you with muscle pains) for days. But, if you're nice and gentle, and slow, your body will learn to accept it, and you won't feel those discomforts (or at least, not as much). This is what I meant by muscle memory.
Your butt has to learn that it can do the things your asking it to do. It's not going to learn it in just one session, it has to be built up over days/months/years.
When was the last time you saw a scarecrow looking fella walk into a gym, and come out looking like a bodybuilder after just a few hours? ...Exactly... 😉
Hopefully this helps... anyone. And I'm sorry for the vulgarities.
As for your particular scenario Tinker D:
If it's not a size issue, it could be down to that 'jerk' I was talking about: The two toys won't want to slide past one another, and you'll have to ...
persuade them (For lack of a better choice of word 😉). Just don't over do it though!!
You could try pulling the buttplug base towards your back a little, as you'll find this gives more room at the front (towards your balls). And if you manage to get the tip of the dildo in by doing this, you're probably better letting go of the base again, before trying to slide the dildo in, as the plug will be obstructing it's path inside, due it being rotated towards your prostate.
Until you've managed to get them in together, I wouldn't worry about the positioning...
I'm beginning to hope that I put a disclaimer in my first post that indemnifies me from any law suits, etc...
Please, whatever you do, just be careful
/LLL