Self-bondage, fetish and children. How and when did it begin?

[madjack]

In all honesty I can’t identify one single event or image that started me on my path to perversion. I do recall loving the feel of silky nylon things (nylon sheets, tights etc,) followed by wanting to see women in tights on the street, on TV (ice-skaters) and movies. Then I started to experience a strange excitement when seeing women in bondage when wearing tights – just the usual ‘movie bondage’ stuff, nothing extreme.

 I started wearing tights myself during puberty and I know that is where I started to try some simple self-bondage with both legs inside a single leg of the tights.

 I first discovered bondage in magazines when I started work. All the buildings I worked from had ‘libraries’ (filing cabinets) in which you could find the usual Men Only, Mayfair and Penthouse stuff. Very occasionally one of these would have a tiny section on bondage and I couldn’t get enough of them (all soft core and gentle, almost artistic). It was maybe 2 years later that I first found a real fetish magazine – with bondage, latex and cross-dressing all through… I thought my cock would explode as I read it! 

Once I knew these magazines existed I quickly discovered the wider world of bondage and clearly recall one model called Kiri Kelly who featured very frequently in my fantasies... happy days. 💓

 I’m afraid my path has been a downhill spiral into depravity from there onwards! 😁

MJ

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From Reddit:

- When I was really young, I used to fantasize that an authoritative man immobilized me and tortured me for failing to meet his expectations throughout the week. Wait a minute... I still fantasize about that. It's just what turns my body on.

- When I was little, I was first intrigued by the sight of female characters in movies/TV and comics being captured and put into bondage. At playdates I'd tie up my female friends with jump rope to replicate such scenes from the comics or movies pretending I was the villain. I'd also drawings/art of damsels in distress to which my parents later discovered much to their dismay and by then I learned it wasn't normal...

- I remember focusing so much on a part in Hercules where Hades captures Meg, and these vines wrap around her body and mouth to constrict her.

- I found out the same way, specifically Penny from Inspector Gadget being tied up all the time. I was aroused without being able to comprehend what it meant.

- Same here..I noticed when I saw cartoons or TV shows and women were tied up I got really excited..I have no idea why..

- My mom told me when I was little my favorite way to play was to be a damsel in distress and have my sister tie me up and be an evil villain or whatever. For some reason she assumed this meant I would turn out to be a lesbian...

- I can remember enjoying being constrained from a young age, not so sure why though too.

- Actually for me it was similar. I would pretend to be a spy or something and infiltrate the enemy HQ. I always get caught. Then I would pretend to be tied up and "tortured."

- It's honestly something that I've always been into. Some of my earliest sexual fantasies where about girls being tied up or restrained, even before I knew how sex actually worked. For me the big shocker was when I realized that not everyone felt the same way about it as I did, for a long time I just assumed that it was something most people were into and just didn't talk about. Once I started thinking about it though, I realized it was the control and power of it, and the trust that comes along with it.

- I used to fantasise about a woman being captured, tied up and 'something' happening to her with a group of men. Over the years, that woman became me in my fantasies.

- When I was fourteen I read The Story of O for the first time and was completely captivated by it. Then a couple years later I found bondage porn in my friend's dad's desk and it fueled my fascination. I knew from that point on it was something I wanted.

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Hmm... something new: http://www.pinknews.co.uk/2016/03/22/pol...d-lessons/

A right-wing Senator in Australia has claimed that a sex education anti-bullying programme teaches children how to buy sex toys and visit bondage clubs.
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In an email exchange with Melbourne mother Pia Cerveri, who had complained about Bernardi’s stance, the Senator claimed students are learning about bondage clubs.

“Give it a go and get your five year old a book called The Gender Fairy and let him experiment with being a girl.

“Then when he is 15 he can just use the girls change room (sic) whilst using the links provided on the information website to find more about bondage clubs and adult sex toys.

Now I wonder what's in that educational program in reality... And I wish I had the Internet when I was a kid.

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There are reasons, why we see (sometimes hidden) fetish & bondage in family films, kids comics, books, etc. No wonder some of us, who grew up on these films, have developed addictions:

http://www.cracked.com/article_19005_6-f...verts.html
http://www.cracked.com/article_21568_7-f...pt.-2.html

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http://www.uncommonforum.com/viewtopic.php?t=17066 (Self-Bondage Obsession)

From the time I was five years old I have liked to tie myself up. Hardly a day goes by when I don't do it. Over the years, and since I live in an apartment alone I have refined my methods.

http://thoughtcatalog.com/charlie-shaw/2...-fetishes/

Thank you, Nickelodeon!

Can’t believe I’m going to post this, but it’s no weirder than most in this thread.
I’m bisexual and into BDSM, but the thing I consider weirdest is that I’m a wet and messy fetishist.

I like to see girls slimed, covered in mud, pied in the face, or just generally messy. Growing up with Nickelodeon was a strange and interesting experience…

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http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/a44...ge-fetish/

I Discovered My Fetish While Watching Old TV Shows
The thought of being held captive excited me as a kid and turns me on as an adult.


I was 9 years old, and I couldn't sleep. After sneaking out of bed, I turned on the television quietly and curled up on the couch to watch Nick at Nite until dawn, as I often did in the throes of insomnia. It was The Adventures of Superman, and lucky me, Jimmy Olsen was being kidnapped.

I loved it when Jimmy Olsen was kidnapped. And he was being kidnapped in spectacular fashion. A group of gangsters in pinstriped suits and fedoras wrestled him into the back of a delivery van, their hands clamped over his mouth and pinning his arms into his back. The next time the van door opened, Jimmy was bound and gagged. He had ropes wrapped around his entire body, around his arms at the elbow and the shoulder, his hands tied behind him. Ropes around his knees. Around his ankles. Two white handkerchiefs obscuring his eyes and mouth.

One of the bad guys punched Jimmy in the stomach. Even to me it looked kind of fake, but Jimmy lurched and moaned before the van door was closed again.

I felt a thrill of excitement and anticipation. Anything could happen to Jimmy, he was completely helpless — and not buckled into the car! — but at the same time I knew he would be safe. Superman would come and save him. I knew nothing really bad could happen to Jimmy. Jimmy was always safe, even if he was scared and vulnerable.

I played kidnapping games with my sisters for a few years. Pirates and princesses sometimes; once in a while we acted out stories with our Barbie dolls. Somebody would be abducted, and then a handsome prince or smiling Ken doll would rescue them.

I didn't think about those games for a long time, not until the first time I went into a sex toy store. I went in out of pure curiosity as a teenager, and there on display was an array of handcuffs and ropes and blindfolds.

And it all clicked for me.

Of course there was a cottage industry in bondage supplies. Because of course people wanted to be tied up. Wanted to tie somebody up. Wanted to play act the illusion of danger, the thrill of helplessness, the moment of uncertainty when maybe Superman wasn't coming to the rescue.

I knew before I became sexually active that what I was really interested was ropes and gags and blindfolds, a little bit of pain and a lot of restraint. The anticipation heightens all the senses, but it's not Superman who saves me. It's the same person who tied me up in the first place.

There's a phrase in the kink world that describes my relationship with bondage — it's called "topping from the bottom." I know exactly what I want, and I have a habit of letting my partner know if he's doing it wrong. That's the delightful thing about bondage — about being wrapped up in ropes and blindfolded and gagged and being made absolutely helpless. I'm not helpless. I've arranged the situation exactly as I know it will titillate me most. I've designed the scene to stimulate my senses and to just plain stimulate. I might be bound and gagged, tossed around and manhandled, but I'm doing it under the terms I've chosen that excite me the most.

Most of my friends know a little about my kink. I don't often speak openly about it, but I'm not ashamed. Everything I do is consensual, enjoyable, and safe. And I feel no reason that I should be ashamed of the activities I enjoy behind closed doors. I am not ashamed of my fantasies or of asking my partner to fulfill them.

My kinky sex life is utterly fulfilling. The sex itself is spectacular, but even more, there is a deepening intimacy that occurs when you unpack your kinks. When you and your partner talk over how they came to be, digging for material for the best possible scene, the most exciting experience.

And that means that sometimes, the most romantic gift he can get me on Valentine's Day isn't a pearl necklace or dinner at a fancy restaurant; sometimes it's a hardware store bag full of rope and a pocket full of handkerchiefs.

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From http://www.hamptoninstitution.org/bdsm-interview.html

When I was about 12 years old, I figured out you could use Google to find pictures of naked women. I'd print them out and pass them around to my friends who didn't have computers. It was mostly out of curiosity and a desire to discuss sexual things with friends who were at a similar stage of development. 'Sex education' always had too much of a dressed up politically correct agenda for my tastes. It was at this point that I first realized there were many other people out there who thought and felt the same way I did about the activities commonly known as BDSM. I found images of men and women bound in different positions, videos of people dominating each other, and everything that came with it. I had always been interested in those sorts of activities, but I could never put a label to it simply because I didn't know of one.

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8 Weirdly Sexual Products You Won't Believe Are for Kids:

http://www.cracked.com/article_19288_8-w...-kids.html

[madboyevil]

8 Weirdly Sexual Products You Won't Believe Are for Kids:

And I thought I had seen everything...

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More personal stories:

"When I was 12 or 13 the doctor gave me a rectal exam. I'd never had anything put up there before. I thought it was gross, but I also kinda liked it."

"It's hard to say when I discovered that I was into BDSM. I've been into it since I was little, but at the time I had no idea what sex was, much less BDSM. I just really enjoyed seeing people endure pain or being tied up or stuck in places/restrained and being restrained myself. Then when I was a teen I discovered the internet and that I could find porn with scenarios very similar to the ones that had been playing in my head during my masturbation sessions. So that's when I realized the thing I was into was called BDSM, and that I wasn't the only one with those fantasies. Also, recently I discovered I was very turned on by penises locked in chastity cages after finding a man on fetlife who'd made his chastity permanent by epoxying the chastity cage in place. The hottest thing I'd ever seen. Now I need to find a sub whose dick I can lock up."

"We have much different specific kinks, but this is pretty much exactly how I "discovered" BDSM. I don't know where the ideas came from because I was really sheltered at a young age. We didn't really have much TV, and my parents were really conservative. I wasn't exposed to anything crazy. But from a very early age, I made up these scenarios that ended up being really similar to a lot of bondage and D/s fantasies I read about online."

"I'm REALLY into bondage, and I discovered this during a Boy Scout outing when I was 10. I just had a length of good rope...a cabin to myself...and a lot of time to practice knots. What better to practice on than yourself? So I spent hours tying all kinds of knots on my wrists and ankles and making up my own variations. Who would have known that I'm using some of those same techniques to this day in live demonstrations and in the bedroom!? It's funny how something that small could lead to a HUGE portion of my life now!"

"I discovered I enjoyed the thought of being submissive before I even knew it was anything sexual. Before I ever did anything sexual. I was young, maybe 10-13 or so, and I saw a scene in a movie that I found really, really appealing for some reason. It was some alien movie in which a girl got captured by aliens, locked onto this inspection table contraption and basically objected to weird (nonsexual) things.

I would lay in bed in the dark before sleeping, fantasizing about me being in that position. Again, nothing sexual, I never touched myself (I was too young to even think of that). But after I fantasized about this scenario I would be filled with such a good, satisfying feeling. I had no idea why."