Do you prefer the real thing, just the virtual version, or doing it alone?
Do you meet up in person to discuss bondage or self-bondage?
30.77%
4
Do you meet up in person for a drink in a bar just to chat? (Munch-style or just one-on-one)
0%
0
I don’t want to meet up
38.46%
5
I can’t meet up, because I’m married and have a family
23.08%
3
Other (please comment)
7.69%
1
13 vote(s)
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Poll: Do you prefer the real thing, or just the virtual version, or going it alone?

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(24 Mar 2026, 06:49 )Gitefétichistes Wrote: : I’ve tied people up for the night just as they wanted. I then untied them the next day. They never saw my genitals
(24 Mar 2026, 06:49 )Gitefétichistes Wrote: What I like about this sort of NO SEX meet-up is the camaraderie between like-minded people.
Still, this applies: "I can’t meet up as I’m married with a family"

(24 Mar 2026, 06:49 )Gitefétichistes Wrote: Example 4: I have held the keys to a chastity cage on X occasions WITHOUT ever touching it.
We discuss this in the remotely controlled toys/cages/boxes threads. No meet up needed here.
E.g.:
https://www.likera.com/forum/mybb/Thread...app-review
(This post was last modified: 24 Mar 2026, 13:30 by Like Ra.)
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(26 Mar 2026, 22:18 )Like Ra Wrote: The poll is added! Please let me know if the questions should be changed, updated, or if we need more options.

That's perfect, thank you very much
(27 Mar 2026, 17:27 )YouMayDream Wrote: I'm on the asexual spectrum, so I'm not really interested in meeting people about BDSM
I find the virtual experience more than enough for my need

That being said, I do enjoy that you offer the service and wish you the best of luck!


Whether you’re asexual or not, it doesn’t change the fact that BDSM encounters can take place without sex.

This response has been part of my campaign against misconceptions for years.

Engaging in bondage with another man does not mean you are gay
Engaging in sibari with a woman does not mean you’ll end up in bed together
Engaging in BDSM as a couple does not mean promiscuity or sex.

I have organised 35 large fetish gatherings at my home (lasting a whole weekend); there has never been any sex at any of these 35 events.On the other hand, it did allow me to meet my wife. (LOVE)

Same here – I’ve been organising fetish-themed New Year’s Eve parties with friends for 15 years. There’s never been any sex at these parties among like-minded fetishists.
(15 Apr 2026, 06:37 )Gitefétichistes Wrote: Engaging in bondage with another man does not mean you are gay
Engaging in sibari with a woman does not mean you’ll end up in bed together
Engaging in BDSM as a couple does not mean promiscuity or sex.
Also, it does not mean that the current partner will stay (and not disappear), if/when he/she discovers those "engagements".
I'm single, but going to your site is a hassle for me. I need to find a cat-sit,... who is going to take care of my elderly parents (80+)? If it was possible for me to hop in my car, have a day of fun and drive back, I'm game.
(22 Apr 2026, 20:12 )herrpee Wrote: I'm single, but going to your site is a hassle for me. I need to find a cat-sit,... who is going to take care of my elderly parents (80+)? If it was possible for me to hop in my car, have a day of fun and drive back, I'm game.

Thank you for your reply, but I was speaking in general terms.
I understand that, for you, coming on holiday to our place is complicated, and I commend you on your generosity towards your parents.

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