(16 May 2012, 08:24 )alias180 Wrote: [ -> ]In my experience I would have been more lucky if someone had said something more critical about my fetish and collector lifestyle. So maybe it would have spared me some very baaaad experience.
Wow... does not sound good... What happened?
Speaking of women and shoes. Khloe Kardashian's and Christina Aguilera's shoes collections.
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Khloe's high heels are impressive.
Wow... does not sound good... What happened?
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Oh, that's tough to answer. But the short version goes something like this: Childhood determined my sexuality (Mainfetish -> Bondage, Spandex), normal youth with vanilla sexuality, in my twenties discovering my fetish again, starting easy and innocent until I have a very serious addiction with all characteristics like any other addiction (only fetish friends, no stable relationship etc.), at the peak of my fetish lifestyle: first panic attack, depression, two years therapy.
As a result: Lost about 4 years of personal advancement (Job, Social life, other interests) and broken sexuality (normal intercourse is difficult for me at the moment), very much money spend on fetish gear, sex websites, comics, books and so on ....
The good thing: After therapy I changed everything. So now I am married and I love every minute of it. I changed my job (self-employed) and I don't do anymore fetish stuff. I am feeling like a free man again.
Of course, in my brain is still a soft spot for the fetish stuff. That's my only thing I will allow myself in healthy dosage: Surfing the net, download some bondage photos or reading this dangerous blog 😊
So, that's it .. Thanks for reading 😊
Whoa...hard stuff.
But just for interest, what says your wife about that, if she knows your past? And for sure, if you don't want to answer, you don't need to!
(18 May 2012, 12:12 )B1u3 Wrote: [ -> ]Whoa...hard stuff.
But just for interest, what says your wife about that, if she knows your past? And for sure, if you don't want to answer, you don't need to!
No problem, B1u3 ... I met my wife during my depression. So she knows everything about me and my (dark) past. But she didn't want to see all my fetish material. Like hardcore Bondage stuff or me walking around in black catsuits.
She was really a help for me. And still is. I remember those times when she told me what an addict I was. And boy is that hard to admit that you have a big problem there!
Yeah it's so true: To notice that you have an addiction is the most difficult part. You know the alcoholic: I drink just for fun and so on ...
And since fetish addiction is way off the mainstream (in contrast to normal sex addiction) it took me some time.
And it's lost time ... that bothers me the most. But I know I can't change that anymore 😊
(18 May 2012, 16:43 )alias180 Wrote: [ -> ]fetish addiction is way off the mainstream
I would say no. Fetishism is too well-known thing.
(18 May 2012, 16:43 )alias180 Wrote: [ -> ]in contrast to normal sex addiction
Also no, because there are no normal addictions, all addictions are abnormal. And because sex-addiction involves other people, usually many. In contrast with latex/nylon on yourself.
(18 May 2012, 16:43 )alias180 Wrote: [ -> ]I drink just for fun
... and I can always stop if I want... Yeah, very true.
Not a big collection of plugs, but a small collection of very big dildos 😁
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Getting ready for the night? ;P