10 Oct 2019, 02:05
First of all - calm down. People and animals around do feel our emotions and agitation and act accordingly, and not what we would expect from them. We might get excited, emotional, agitated, aroused, angry over the things that affect us the most, or what we feel uncomfortable about, or we feel guilty or ashamed for, etc. See the pattern? When we "accept" something, when it feels "normal" to us, we "radiate" confidence, tranquillity, rightness. And the outer world is mirroring us. (Actually, the outer world IS us, but let's not get into that for the time being). We attract what we radiate. We sound according to our resonances. Change the internal resonances, and the world around will change.
When you talk about something calmly, as if it's normal, people tend to "entrain", and accept what you are saying as normal. If you are a normal, intelligible, reliable, positive, etc person, then, most likely, everything what you are saying or doing should be fine, right? (Of course, not always, but let's generalize a bit).
Our fetishes are not given to us "just to have fun" or cause inconvenience. If you deny them, purge, try to forget, shove them under the bed, they will return with revenge. You have to accept them, just like you have to accept yourself and the outer world. Fetishes (and other traits) are given to us as a task we have to solve. If our traits are accepted, understood, divested, they might go away if they are not needed anymore, and their role in your development has been fulfilled. Or they might stay to propel you further, because they might be your goal, way of life, or the way to your realization. The only way to change the "outside world" is to accept yourself, accept the world, then "tweak" yourself internally.
You said "love". In "philosophy", "love" is an "unconditional acceptance". "Such things happen", "He/she is just such a person", "this is who she/he is", "OK, this is what's the world like, let's see how it works š"
In NLP, "a love" is a set of verbs, describing what you do, that the other person will understand that "you love him or her", and the other way around - what the other person should do, that you understand that she/he loves you. See? No clichƩs and undefined words (like "love", "friend", "enemy", "hope", etc) anymore. You both can sit down with pieces of paper and pens, and each of you can create a list of things/actions that other person "should do" to let you know that she/he "loves you", and what YOU do to show YOUR love. Then compare the lists together. You might be very surprised.
Everything, what is happening to us, has its reason, goal and is supposed to help us. The more we ignore something (e.g. we miss the early "road signs"), the more painful "the event". It will become more noticeable, until we stop ignoring it. Think "What is the purpose of it?", "What should I work on?", "How is it going to help me?", instead of "why did it happen to me?" "Okay, this is who I am, this is what I'm like, this is what's happening - let's see why it was given to me, what I can do with these tools".
Being your own observer might bring you some surprises. I mean watching yourself as if from a distance, as if you are a "3d party" independent uninvolved person might.
Oh, and everything I'm talking about is my own experience, perceived and expressed through my own "filters". Your "reality" might be way too far from mine, and what I'm saying might not be resonating within you. In this case, just ignore what I said for the time being, switch off your logical thinking and follow your intuition, follow your body. Most likely you aeady have the solution, just stop thinking about it.
When you talk about something calmly, as if it's normal, people tend to "entrain", and accept what you are saying as normal. If you are a normal, intelligible, reliable, positive, etc person, then, most likely, everything what you are saying or doing should be fine, right? (Of course, not always, but let's generalize a bit).
Our fetishes are not given to us "just to have fun" or cause inconvenience. If you deny them, purge, try to forget, shove them under the bed, they will return with revenge. You have to accept them, just like you have to accept yourself and the outer world. Fetishes (and other traits) are given to us as a task we have to solve. If our traits are accepted, understood, divested, they might go away if they are not needed anymore, and their role in your development has been fulfilled. Or they might stay to propel you further, because they might be your goal, way of life, or the way to your realization. The only way to change the "outside world" is to accept yourself, accept the world, then "tweak" yourself internally.
You said "love". In "philosophy", "love" is an "unconditional acceptance". "Such things happen", "He/she is just such a person", "this is who she/he is", "OK, this is what's the world like, let's see how it works š"
In NLP, "a love" is a set of verbs, describing what you do, that the other person will understand that "you love him or her", and the other way around - what the other person should do, that you understand that she/he loves you. See? No clichƩs and undefined words (like "love", "friend", "enemy", "hope", etc) anymore. You both can sit down with pieces of paper and pens, and each of you can create a list of things/actions that other person "should do" to let you know that she/he "loves you", and what YOU do to show YOUR love. Then compare the lists together. You might be very surprised.
Everything, what is happening to us, has its reason, goal and is supposed to help us. The more we ignore something (e.g. we miss the early "road signs"), the more painful "the event". It will become more noticeable, until we stop ignoring it. Think "What is the purpose of it?", "What should I work on?", "How is it going to help me?", instead of "why did it happen to me?" "Okay, this is who I am, this is what I'm like, this is what's happening - let's see why it was given to me, what I can do with these tools".
Being your own observer might bring you some surprises. I mean watching yourself as if from a distance, as if you are a "3d party" independent uninvolved person might.
Oh, and everything I'm talking about is my own experience, perceived and expressed through my own "filters". Your "reality" might be way too far from mine, and what I'm saying might not be resonating within you. In this case, just ignore what I said for the time being, switch off your logical thinking and follow your intuition, follow your body. Most likely you aeady have the solution, just stop thinking about it.