Self bondage struggle!

[Bound Whore]

Have you ever considered soliciting the services of a professional mistress if you have the overwhelming desire to be completely helpless? Expensive, sure, but barring the highly unlikely chance of ever finding a casual/serious partnership with shared kinks (haha, good luck), that seems to be the only valid option in my mind. I toyed with the idea, but haven't gone through with it.

Unless you're super trusting and go looking for a partner via the classifieds (like the guy I'm meeting tomorrow to tie him up for a bit. Unless he chickens out at the last minute - which I told him would be perfectly fine and understandable).

Also, how did you achieve your near perfect arch? Did you use a special ring device?

[Like Ra]

like the guy I'm meeting tomorrow to tie him up for a bit. Unless he chickens out at the last minute - which I told him would be perfectly fine and understandable

Just invite him to the forum - that should work as a subtle reassurance.

[PurpleVibes]

Have you ever considered soliciting the services of a professional mistress

Yeah, don't tease me I've been torturing myself with that idea for so long.

The only downside to that plan is the expensive part like you've said. Most professional mistresses in my area would charge a premium just for an evaluation interview... they reserve the right to choose me for a bdsm session. So sad 😟

[PurpleVibes]

Also, how did you achieve your near perfect arch?

I first tie my feet then my ankles and finally my tights. I lay on my bed with my belly facing down and I secure my bent legs with a few loops around the waist making sure my feet touch my buttocks. Afterwards, I create a tension point on my ankle tie that goes directly to my shoulders, one loop on the left shoulder, it goes back to the ankle tie, then it goes to the right shoulder and back to the ankle tie, I do that 2 or 3 times and then I just start pulling the rope, it's fairly easy to tighten the arch that way, then I simply loop the remaining rope around my chest and voila my arch is tightly bent. The only part I dislike is the tension on my shoulders, the rope is basically eating my skin and leaves some nasty red marks, but that is all subjective sometimes I like it, sometimes I don't.

I'd love to post some photos, but since I'm doing all that solo it will be a little challenging to properly focus the points of interest. Maybe I'll upload them by the weekend.

Did you use a special ring device?

I would love to hear more about this ring method 😁 maybe it'll simplify things for me.

[madjack]

Did you use a special ring device?

I would love to hear more about this ring method maybe it'll simplify things for me.
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The SRD or Special Ring Device is a 'self-bondage 101' - this link will help https://www.likera.com/sb/tech/blife.php

It's a decent method and is the one I started off with when first experimenting with true 'helplessness' in my self-bondage sessions. It can be adapted to be used in many different scenarios (check out the 'Self bondage techniques' section and all the posts in 'Completed Sessions' for more ideas)

There are a few problems with it (at least in my experience) and I now use a simple rope ratchet (search eBay or any similar site) which I find to be far superior for my self-bondage scenes.

Stay safe

MJ

[vanessa_fetish]

Have you ever considered soliciting the services of a professional mistress

Yeah, don't tease me I've been torturing myself with that idea for so long.

The only downside to that plan is the expensive part like you've said. Most professional mistresses in my area would charge a premium just for an evaluation interview... they reserve the right to choose me for a bdsm session. So sad 😟

Usually they use that meeting to filter out those who are not serious. Having pro-dommed for a while and knowing a few, generally if you show up, pay the fee or the bill (I used restaurants where I could reserve a private table) you're in.

If anyone visits Montreal, I'd be happy to give the experience for free. (I no longer pro-domme but do tie others for their experience)

[Lancer]

Have you ever considered soliciting the services of a professional mistress

Yeah, don't tease me I've been torturing myself with that idea for so long.

The only downside to that plan is the expensive part like you've said. Most professional mistresses in my area would charge a premium just for an evaluation interview... they reserve the right to choose me for a bdsm session. So sad 😟

Usually they use that meeting to filter out those who are not serious. Having pro-dommed for a while and knowing a few, generally if you show up, pay the fee or the bill (I used restaurants where I could reserve a private table) you're in.

If anyone visits Montreal, I'd be happy to give the experience for free. (I no longer pro-domme but do tie others for their experience)

Shame the southern borders closed 😕 never got to go into Sault ste Marie

[Lancer]

Also, how did you achieve your near perfect arch?

I first tie my feet then my ankles and finally my tights. I lay on my bed with my belly facing down and I secure my bent legs with a few loops around the waist making sure my feet touch my buttocks. Afterwards, I create a tension point on my ankle tie that goes directly to my shoulders, one loop on the left shoulder, it goes back to the ankle tie, then it goes to the right shoulder and back to the ankle tie, I do that 2 or 3 times and then I just start pulling the rope, it's fairly easy to tighten the arch that way, then I simply loop the remaining rope around my chest and voila my arch is tightly bent. The only part I dislike is the tension on my shoulders, the rope is basically eating my skin and leaves some nasty red marks, but that is all subjective sometimes I like it, sometimes I don't.

I'd love to post some photos, but since I'm doing all that solo it will be a little challenging to properly focus the points of interest. Maybe I'll upload them by the weekend.

Did you use a special ring device?

I would love to hear more about this ring method 😁 maybe it'll simplify things for me.

Set the ISO to 0 and use good lighting. Almost always the camera will be able to capture the entire scene clearly. Whoever made higher isos standard on cameras should be slapped.

[Like Ra]

use good lighting

Ha! Sure! So easy! Very compact and always available! And not noticeable by neighbours or passerbys! 😂

[PurpleVibes]

I'd love to post some photos,

Total setup time, 15 to 20 minutes.

Tying my feet and ankles with simple loops so they can't escape by struggling.

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Now I tie my legs around the thighs making sure they are packed together as close as possible:

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Then a simple chest harness is created, going around my feet and shoulders. It's aeady very difficult to maneuver and I can't move my feet at all. This is ideal if I just want to be hogtied for a long time:

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If I want to increase the strictness, I add more loops around the feet and shoulders. I don't know how to describe the final step, but I just arch my back as far back as possible and then pull the rope to keep the arch.

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This step is very taxing, and the tightness increases very slowly. The cherry on top would be tying my wrists behind my back, but that would trap me without any means of escape. So enticing. Anyways, by this point my feet and ankles are all numb due to low blood flow, my back is very strained with little room for any struggle, and my shoulders feel like they are being sawed by the rope, any movement increases the pain.

A few ideas I still need to incorporate into my hogtie are an inflatable gag or a long thick gag for a good deep throat. A head harness to completely incapacitate me and increase the tension. Putting on an arm binder or trying a reverse prayer tie. Feel very welcome to add any other enticing ideas to have more fun.