(13 Dec 2024, 19:11 )fiftysometing Wrote:(12 Dec 2024, 18:25 )MIWSTIUS Wrote: Et Voila! I think you pinpointed at least part of the problem right there.
A half truth and an assumption at a critical point in your relationship.
No doubt. But that is the distant past - roughly 35 years ago - and there is no correcting that at this point.
(12 Dec 2024, 18:25 )MIWSTIUS Wrote: you spend hours and gasoline to hike the loneliest of hikes, over and over.
And once you return, you elicit only glares of disdain, and perhaps even snide remarks.
That's a bit of an exaggeration on what is happening. 95% of my hikes are pretty close to home (mostly mountains in the middle or around the edge of my city) and I enjoy solo hiking - always have, even before I started wearing during such hikes. When I drive out-of-town for hiking trips (much less frequently), I am more likely to wear during the day, as I did on this last trip (multiple times) which was not so much a hiking trip as a trip I was taking anyway, and I just made time to hike along the way.
And no, she doesn't give me glares of disdain or snide remarks. She's basically nonplussed about it and doesn't comment on it at all anymore. When I came home from my most recent trip wearing the leggings shown above, she didn't even blink -- or say anything about it in either direction. I could have been wearing shorts and her reaction would have been the same. She just knows that's what I do. But she's clearly not interested in participating ... and she's so out-of-shape now that it wouldn't be a stretch (no pun intended) to say that spandex looks better on me than it would on her.
(12 Dec 2024, 18:25 )MIWSTIUS Wrote: And to me, your life post seems to be hoping to search for tranquillity - as if people like us here will say, hey, yeah cool story bro and other small talk leading to nothing.
I shared my story because I haven't shared it with anyone in my entire life, and it was a way to get it off my chest in an environment where I expected people would be able to identify with some or most of it. I wasn't looking for anyone here to tell me that my life choices about this issue have been wrong and urge me to shake things up and possibly destroy what's left of my marriage. I appreciate your perspective, and thank you for it, but I will not take your advice on that matter.
In all likelihood, I will phase out my wearing over time as I continue to age. Even in the past year or so, I have detected a slight reduction in desire to wear, perhaps somewhat coincident with my sex drive reducing over time as well. I am OK with this and it really wouldn't bother me at all if the desire to wear diminished completely over time. I hope it does. As much as I have enjoyed it, it complicates my life and obviously cost me far too much money over the years.
My apologies if I sounded condescending.
That is certainly not my intent, and indeed you should cherish your marriage, probably above all else.
And yes, we can identify with your story.
Like I said, most of us fetishists face similar challenges at varying points in life's stages.
However, in all honesty I have to say that if my situation would be the same as yours ten years from now, I'd be horrified.
