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Ways to prevent ruining long sessions with premature orgasm - Palladin - 31 Oct 2024
Hello everyone,
I would like to challenge massive shared experience of users of Like Ra's forum to solve this persistent problem of mine.
From time to time I get the opportunity to spend few days alone in our house. Otherwise I (M42) live with my partner (F40). She knows about my kinks and she loves to participate, which I am very happy for, but sometimes I just want to enjoy time only with myself.
My dream is to spend whole day doing all kinds of kinky stuff. I am big fan of anything anal-related, I love shiny clothes (latex, PVC), I am no stranger to bondage, gags, sensory deprivation, ABDL... nature was really generous to me. I usually plan the activities and set time how long I will do them before moving to next one.
Sample scenario usually looks something like this: 1) Take 4 different enemas, hold each at least 15 minutes. 2) Get fucked by fucking machine 30 minutes watching porn, 30 minutes with sensory deprivation mask 3) Plug myself and play video game for one hour, etc
The goal is to edge myself until I do everything from my list and only then I am allowed to cum. Usually I don't masturbate several days before the session so my body gets over-sensitive, I am horny AF and all sensations are intensified.
Now the problem is that I am never able to go through whole session. Sooner or later I get to the point "Fuck, I can't take it anymore" and I finish myself. The orgasm is usually nice and strong, but then I am disapppointed that I wasn't able to go through all tasks. Sometimes I try and wait, don't clean up anything, keep all my stuff so I can see it, hoping that I will get horny again and resume the scenario. But it doesn't work, the magic is gone.
I tried few things to prevent me from breaking the session, but so far nothing worked 100%.
From mental tools, I of course tried to forbid myself orgasm under threat of some punishment or promised myself some reward if I go through all tasks, but my desire to release is always stronger than my will.
Regarding physical tools, I own two metal chastity cages and one silicone (Oxballs). The problem with first metal cage is that I can still touch head of my penis and that's enough to make me cum, problem with second cage is that when I use enough lube, I can just pull out and again, cum. And anyway, I still have the keys! I tried freezing them to icecube, just to end throwing the cube into hot water, I tried to take away the key to garage which is in another building (200 meters far), but I can still go there and retrieve it anyway. I hoped that the silicone cage will allow me to get at least some cock stimulation and I'll be able to get over the part where I am too excited to continue with my tasks, but nope, I finish myself even with the silicone cage on the cock.
So finally, my question: Can you give me any advice what to do to prevent myself from ruining my long planned sessions by premature orgasm? Did anything work for you? I am not looking for solutions that would involve anyone else, e.g. my girlfriend. I don't want to give her keys to chastity cage, or to send her photos that I am still chaste, etc.
All I can think of is get some sort of chastity cage that will be really escape-proof + either time-lock or that small vault with timer where I could lock the key. But I've read that you can basically get out of any chastity cage unless you get cock piercing, which I am not going to have.
Thanks for all ideas!
RE: Ways to prevent ruining long sessions with premature orgasm - Like Ra - 01 Nov 2024
(31 Oct 2024, 23:37 )Palladin Wrote: All I can think of is get some sort of chastity cage that will be really escape-proofHave a look at this thread: https://www.likera.com/forum/mybb/showthread.php?tid=1770 and especially from this post down: https://www.likera.com/forum/mybb/Thread-Chastity-The-good-The-bad?pid=75539#pid75539
RE: Ways to prevent ruining long sessions with premature orgasm - Iniga - 01 Nov 2024
@Palladin If you only want to lock up for a day, you could also buy a timed lock and lock the chastity keys away safely.
There are Cherry Keepers with touch stops and still remain fairly breathable for longer term wear if you choose:
Standard Touch Stops: https://cherrykeeper.net/collections/total-touchstop-cages
Customs with a very small opening at the tip intended for a urethral insert:
https://cherrykeeper.net/products/5puxw3ysv
https://cherrykeeper.net/products/yjryq72ab
I have used flat cages intended for a urethral tube without one, it works but can be a bit messy when peeing.
Flat cages do ofc offer a lot of touch protection 😉
For such a short term lock up, a HT clone should provide more touch protection than a open bar construction and not be an issues with having to remove it to clean during that time.
RE: Ways to prevent ruining long sessions with premature orgasm - Like Ra - 01 Nov 2024
(01 Nov 2024, 01:33 )Iniga Wrote: Cherry KeepersAgain, they are "cosmetic" only. Without catheter, they do not prevent pulling out at all.
RE: Ways to prevent ruining long sessions with premature orgasm - Iniga - 01 Nov 2024
Unfortunately, my body does not tolerate catheters for longer than 24 hours well. I had a bad case of epididymitis several years ago so I'm bit cautious, was unbelieveably painful. I'm also not inclined to squeeze out of any CK I own... I'd defeat the lock before doing that.
RE: Ways to prevent ruining long sessions with premature orgasm - Like Ra - 01 Nov 2024
Yeah, catheters are harsh... The only other way is glue. Ah, or spikes.
RE: Ways to prevent ruining long sessions with premature orgasm - Like Ra - 01 Nov 2024
I think we can merge it with the chastity thread.
RE: Ways to prevent ruining long sessions with premature orgasm - Tinker D - 01 Nov 2024
I don’t think catheters need to be very long. Just long enough to keep you from being able to pull out.
For me that’s a shower, 4 inches is just about right.
For growers, 2 inches should be deep enough.