Report on the life in captivity course

[Gitefétichistes]

   

For 3 days, I took on the role of a psychopathic kidnapper. I had a great time, as did my poor willing victims.

ON THE PROGRAMME

1°) Confiscation of all personal belongings such as telephone / papers / clothes / ....  (Everything was returned, I'm not a thief)

2°) Dressing: just underwear + real handcuffs + balaclava

3°) Locked in the dungeon and real bondage.

4°) Meals served in the dungeon except for the last one, which was a celebration meal. 

5°) Nights in a cage or under real bondage but secured.

6°) Various forms of abuse (adapted to the limits and prohibitions of each individual)

7°) The last half-day was dedicated to discussions/rest/pool/good food.

DECEPTION  😡

The disappointment came from the fantasists who didn't turn up. Instead of 4 people, there were only 2, one of whom could only be there on Sunday. In other words, there was no group dynamic, which would have added a certain charm.

For this reason, our association will no longer be organising themed courses for single men.

--> The aim of the association's courses for single men was to break the solitude of singles looking for a date and to allow them to have fun with their fantasies. There will therefore no longer be any courses for groups of single men.

THE BIG DELUSIONS

As I wasn't able to play on the group dynamic because of the fantasists, I was able to personalise the games and delusions with :

- Various shibari (bondage) with two hangers.
- Fart-play (transformation into a submissive dog)
- A 4x4 outing in the desert where we also took photos of the nappy fan + the game of an escaped convict (handcuffs + foot chain) trying to escape.
- Introduction to water bondage (the pool is heated to 28°C)
- Outdoor spanking in the gîte grounds.
- An Espace game (outdoor treasure hunt with bondage where you have to find the keys to free yourself)
- Two nights in bondage: one night in a cage + one night tied up in the love bedroom. For the 2 nights, the person wore a nappy. She either held back or peed in the nappy.
- Locked in a rubble sack suspended from the dungeon's winch.
- Feminisation with transformation into a maid (under false threats in case of resistance).

THE PRICE OF THE COURSE at real expenses in associative mode.  (To answer the question)

- The course itself was FREE. 
- Contribution to costs: 180 € including EVERYTHING: annual membership* + accommodation for 3 nights + 6 meals + 3 breakfasts + accessories and outfits on loan + consumables + sheets / towels / air conditioning in the dungeon / ... 

SUMMARY

- The person literally had a blast and was able to live out many fantasies!
- I had a great time!
- My wife also had fun when she was able to join us / film / photograph.
- Following the failure of the fantasists, we will be organising other themed courses, but only for couples.
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Don't confuse group courses with bachelor holidays.

With the association, single men will still be able to come on holiday to the gîte to live as women / in nappies / do safe self-bondage / take advantage of the various free games we offer, but the association will no longer be organising group courses for men.

HUMOUR AND SAD FACTS

- There are men who say they are ready to let themselves be tied up (fantasy) but who don't want to give their 06 for fear of being harassed / to preserve their anonymity. 

False excuses!
- You can block a number on a mobile phone.
- There are mobile phone subscriptions available for €1.99 a month (Auchan mobile and bouygues telecom, for example).

- The world is becoming more and more virtual, meetings are less and less real and more and more virtual with a hand hidden under the desk.

[Tinker D]

I hate to admit it, but what you say is True. Even in the U.S.
people, both males and females talk a big line, but never commit.
So my feeling is, they call or email for information and then eather play with themselves or just try to have an online sex.

I think I’m saying this right… not sure.

[Gitefétichistes]

I hate to admit it, but what you say is True. Even in the U.S.
people, both males and females talk a big line, but never commit.
So my feeling is, they call or email for information and then eather play with themselves or just try to have an online sex.

I think I’m saying this right… not sure.

I'm surprised because I thought that in the United States people were freer and had more courage to do these things.

There are far more male fantasists than women!
This statement is based on my personal statistics following the 35 big meetings I've organised in the past, not to mention my other meetings. 

The actual statistics from the 35 major meetings:
- 80 men didn't turn up
- only 1 woman didn't turn up

The 2 main reasons why so many men are fantasists are as follows:

1°) Modesty about the size of their sex (even if it won't be used in a BDSM encounter or spanking for example).
2°) Fear that their masculinity will be affected. (The thought of the strong man...) 

Then there are the truly shy, but I insist on saying TRULY shy. For example, those who don't dare speak in public in traditional business meetings.

[vanessa_fetish]

I've run both an alternative lifestyles education and support non-profit org, and a dungeon (owned dungeon). Some things that I've noticed with my years of experience being involved:

1. Men tend to "no show" more than women, especially when new.
a) women tend to educate themselves about the event and what to expect
b) women tend not to focus on getting their "rocks off" whereas men who are new to it tend to think it's a way to get your rocks off easy
c) properly informing what to expect at the event/course/etc and what NOT to expect, with a set of guidelines, encourages actual interested attendance

2. People in the beginning are often, if not usually, nervous or shy about BDSM and fetish. Which is why in both the ALCC (org) and Triskelion Dungeon we had "Intro to BDSM and Fetish" nights once a month to encourage people to come and learn in a safe, non-judgmental place.

3. Offer discounts to "buy ahead". This way they pay something, and doing so usually means they will show up, and if not, you have some of what you would have made. For instance - if it costs $40 at the door, charge $30 ahead, no refunds.

4. People want to feel safe when they go. Have a set of rules, and have everyone sign a form agreeing to abide by the rules. If they don't, warn once, kick out second, but anything of a non-consensual or limit breaking manner is automatic kick and ban.

5. Advertise in respectable places, and provide as much info as possible in it.

When you start something, it is often starting slow, try not to be discouraged.

[Like Ra]

if it costs $40 at the door, charge $30 ahead, no refunds.

👍

[Gitefétichistes]

When you start something, it is often starting slow, try not to be discouraged.

Hello and thank you for your testimonial and your observations, which are very similar to those I've made over the years. With couples, I've rarely had appointments cancelled, just like with single women.

I'm not discouraged, let's just say that I'm adapting to changes in society.

I simply won't be doing group courses for single men any more. It's a shame because it encourages group dynamics and makes them feel less alone.

The association that runs our fetish gîte will continue to welcome single men, but only 1 by 1. They have to pay 50% of the rental, which is not refunded in the event of cancellation, as this means blocking a week for nothing / preventing other people from enjoying the premises.

In the event of cancellation for a serious reason, I allow them not to lose the 50% on another booking in the same year.