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Feel like self bondage is a waste
#1
I feel like self bondage is a waste of time. Specifically after orgasm. Any tips or ideas to help solve this
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#2
Depends, do you like self bondage as a whole, or when your horny?
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#3
Mainly when im horny
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#4
Then you self bondage to help you get off.
Sounds about right here. There are others like yourself.
And there are others that like self bondage that don't get off.

In other words, you're not alone.
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(27 Jun 2014, 04:34 )nibrocd Wrote: I feel like self bondage is a waste of time. Specifically after orgasm.
This is when the real bondage begins. You want to get out, but you can't Big Grin
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I guess I'll comment here instead of making a somewhat redundant new topic.

But yeah, I'm in a similar boat. For whatever reason, bondage and stuff makes me horny as hell at times.
However, the MOMENT I fap and climax or whatever, that super interest in the bondage is instantly gone and I find myself thinking; "Why the hell do I look at this stuff????"
Yet maybe an hour later my mood will be neutral again and I will once again have a moderate interest.
Its just annoying frankly. I just bought a few things on ebay for this and now whenever fap (regardless of what its to) I find myself regretting the purchases. lol Oh well. It should work out in the long run I hope? lol
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(18 Jul 2014, 00:45 )Noire Wrote: I find myself regretting the purchases. lol
Sounds familiar. I think I've gone past this phase. I can't say I enjoy cleaning the mess, though, but I always think about the next excitement wave, regardless the "delay". For example, if I'm still inescapably bound, or you are already free, but you still have to "clean the mess up".

(18 Jul 2014, 00:45 )Noire Wrote: Oh well. It should work out in the long run I hope? lol
Yes Wink
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#8
yes, i've felt this way and sometimes still do. I got over a lot of it when i started accepting that its part of me. for me SB is a big part of my sex life, and my sex life is an important part of who I am - making me feel good is a way of honoring myself. it builds self esteem, it relieves stress, and makes us feel good about who we are. most of us were brought up that sex is shameful , to be barely tolerated only if it's the 'right' kind. long after we chuck that intellectually we still have it ingrained.

thanks for bringing it up - we can treat ourselves btter by honoring what we do sexually. any time any of us actally does exactly what we want we fight oppression. So thank you for your service. spending an hour in handcuffs with a plug in your ass has made the world a bit better place!
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(18 Jul 2014, 00:45 )Noire Wrote: I guess I'll comment here instead of making a somewhat redundant new topic.

But yeah, I'm in a similar boat. For whatever reason, bondage and stuff makes me horny as hell at times.
However, the MOMENT I fap and climax or whatever, that super interest in the bondage is instantly gone and I find myself thinking; "Why the hell do I look at this stuff????"
Yet maybe an hour later my mood will be neutral again and I will once again have a moderate interest.
Its just annoying frankly. I just bought a few things on ebay for this and now whenever fap (regardless of what its to) I find myself regretting the purchases. lol Oh well. It should work out in the long run I hope? lol

Same here. When I start thinking about self bondage, I start getting horny as well. So I get home, get dressed, get out the ropes and leathers and start my bondage. But, for me, I pop just before or just after I finish the tie. Then I lose intress, and slide out of the ropes.

It would be nice is I did get stuck for a few hours, but it seems that I can get out of of all my ties.

So I hear you.
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#10
I don't think the feelings expressed in this thread are unusual at all, in fact I think they are 100% normal for the majority of men (can't speak for women as I'm not one!).

My personal experiences are very similar, though I would extend the feeling to vanilla sex - in both cases the build up and foreplay (self-bondage if you like) are a massive turn on, but within minutes of my orgasm all I want to do is sleep or get free.

For that very reason I try to make my self-bondage sessions as intense as possible for as long as possible before I cum - knowing that once the 'rush' is over I will become very bored, very quickly.

I once read that if a man can stay awake after ejaculation for 15minutes or so, then he's good to go again - and in my experience that's true! If I can stay focused after sex with my girlfriend then within 20mins I'm right back and ready to go again... if I can stay focused (and if she wants me of course).

I really want to test this theory out in self-bondage too, so that I can cum more than once in the same session (by using a massager/vibrator on a timer) - but so far I've failed to fulfil my dream. I either can't cum at all (which is fun and frustrating in equal measure) or else I do cum but the bondage isn't good enough to keep me helpless and ready for the next cycle of vibration 20minutes or more later.

If time permits I will be trying again this year to fulfil my fantasy, but in the meanwhile I will enjoy my fun and not worry too much if I cum too soon.

MJ
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