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RE: Self-bondage, fetish and children - LockedBoots - 08 Mar 2011 11:11
I`ve read this tread now, and must say that i`m surpriced that most of you, started young with s-b and stuff.
I guess i was about 10 i think ,when i began to put on my sisters boots. Nothing special, just plain black boots, no heels.
Also if she had a girlfriend to sleep over, i got her boots when they went downstairs, and put those on.
After a year or two, I found out about bondage and selfbondage. Since then i`m doing some. Not always, have had a year that i didn`t do anything with it at all.
Now i`m often off for a long walk, or at my room, or somewhere outside to tie myself.
Bought lots of clothes, cuffs, collars etc.
For me its normal now. Some good girlfriends i have know about it, and they think is cool that i dare to do it, and they even help with clothes, or tie me up and leave me for a couple of hours
Thats great, and with a second person, you have less chance of a failure, with "a dead end".
But when i think if it now, if i would have kids, and would find out that they do selfbondage or any other fetish activity, than i don`t know what i would do.
Have a chat, thats for sure.
But i know, you can`t forbid it. Even when you really would want your kids to stop it, i don`t think they will.
Because they will do it behind your back, when they are alone or something.
Be honest, things your forbidden to, but are fun.. you do them right ?!
RE: Self-bondage, fetish and children - Like Ra - 08 Mar 2011 12:46
(17 Jan 2011 16:04 )Like Ra Wrote: Yesterday I was looking for my favourite deep throat dildo, but could not find it. It appears that this one was/is also "borrowed" by... guess who?
Both the "favourite deep throat dildo" and the egg-shaped vibrator "magically" reappear in our "toolbox". Can't find the small 12cm long rubber cock, though.
RE: Self-bondage, fetish and children - Like Ra - 08 Mar 2011 13:03
Hm... How would you start it? "I saw you bound & gagged with a cucumber in your... Do you want to talk about it?"
"I've been practising self-tying since 5 and I think I can give you some tips."
"I can be your safety person. But do not touch my favourite latex pantyhose!"
Of course not... Unless it's something illegal. Or extremely dangerous. Or irreversible.
(08 Mar 2011 11:11 )LockedBoots Wrote: Even when you really would want your kids to stop it, i don`t think they will.I think there are methods. But it will be not fare. It's like prohibiting your children to smoke if you smoke.
(08 Mar 2011 11:11 )LockedBoots Wrote: Because they will do it behind your back, when they are alone or something.
Mmmm... Stealing is fun. Alcohol can be fun. Drugs are considered by some as fun. Safe without a condom is more pleasurable than with one. Auto-erotic asphyxiation is also fun.... Etc...
So, there are cases and there are arguments. It's all within our mind. And it's all our perceptions.
To prohibit is always easier. But your kid must have life experience enough to see the possible outcomes, to see variants, to understand the logical relationships, to understand your explanations, what is allowed, what is absolutely no and never and why.
Prohibit until they are 18? Just like sex-shops? A possible solution...
RE: Self-bondage, fetish and children - Like Ra - 11 Mar 2011 02:22
And another very related true story:
s1300 Wrote:Once at age 15 I was reading books like Diabolik, Jaculla and the likes. My dad and mom knew this. What they did not know was the fact that I made myself a set of cuffs from aluminium tubing and copper wire.
RE: Self-bondage, fetish and children - LockedBoots - 11 Mar 2011 02:52
I guess i would start the conversation with "I know about your SB/CD activities.."
And go on from that.
Sure there are always things you must say to warn them, and some thing could be forbidden, but i don`t think you can forbid completely.
But i don`t have kids yet, so hope i don`t have to thnk about this the next couple of years.
I really wouldn`t know what to think or say..
RE: Self-bondage, fetish and children - Like Ra - 20 Mar 2011 23:29
Ziaix Wrote:Mostly in my late teens, after discovering the internet and what it was about.
sailbottom Wrote:By age 5 or 6 I was pretending to be encased in an all-body cast. Used belts and wriggling in and out by 10. All before puberty of course.
RE: Self-bondage, fetish and children - Like Ra - 12 Apr 2011 09:42
From http://www.ayus-zentai.com :
curse154 Wrote:I recently washed my zentai but I couldn't hang out to dry without anyone knowing so I rolled it up in a towel, shove it into my wardrobe and hope I can bring it out the next day.
Izzy Wrote:Well, having had a similar experience (albeit without a penis sheath on the suit), I can say that they're your parents, and it surely came as a shock to them. No doubt, one of those things they wish they hadn't discovered. But unless they keep bringing it up over and over again, you can probably get along okay ignoring the elephant in the room. And before long, it won't even be an issue. They'll probably forget long before you will.
OoRaH_Zentai Wrote:I went to school and came back to find my mum had found my zentai and decided to unfurl it on my bed. Sad face
NakuRachaelNia Wrote:So my dad finally added me as a friend on Facebook. I didn't think anything of it, but then I realized I had my zentai as my profile picture. DX Luckily, he didn't say anything about it. So, I don't think he cares. Or really understands.
Lycraboy13 Wrote:You're not alone..
dave_beech Wrote:Washed a leotard and left it wrapped in a towel - forgot about it the next morning and my mum found it whilst looking for stuff to wash. She ran it through the machine, dried it, put it in my drawer... told me about it. Then forgot about it. Smart lady, my mum.
zentai09 Wrote:Glad to know things seem to be getting better. The one thing you have to keep in mind is that your parents are concerned about you and your well being. Sometimes parents overreact and sometimes they even regret their actions later. Just keep a good open relationship (at least as much as possible) and be willing to work things out. Happy Zentaiing.
RE: Self-bondage, fetish and children - Like Ra - 13 Apr 2011 13:02
Remember Trevor Brown's art some of you complained about (see here: http://www.likera.com/blog/wp/archives/tag/trevor-brown )
Now read that:
LightningBug Wrote:I've also been practicing (and sleeping in) self bondage since I was a little kid. Jump ropes and bathrobe belts were my first restraints.
RE: Self-bondage, fetish and children - Strapples - 08 Jun 2011 01:02
i kind of need help explaining my kink to my parents i am 19 years old...
RE: Self-bondage, fetish and children - Like Ra - 08 Jun 2011 01:44
(08 Jun 2011 01:02 )Strapples Wrote: i kind of need help explaining my kink to my parents i am 19 years old...
From what you told me you have very understanding parents. And you have already said a lot by your photos and comments.
Actually, there is nothing bad in having some preferences. Again, we agreed on the "smell, look, sound and feel" of latex and PVC. Some prefer mohair, some wool, some nylon.
You have already got PVC and neoprene suits. Nothing overly kinky here. But to be honest, I do not know how to make one step further towards sleeping bags. I can't even imagine speaking about that with my parents. But I have no issues discussing with my kids or with anybody else.